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writes: Hey. I know that when you read this you'll think Im stupid, naive and easily led, but I know this already and Im so full of regret at what Ive done. Basicly, I know a lad (we're friends), he is two years older than me. I knew I should stay away from him, I knew I should forget him and I PROMISED myself I would stay away from/forget him. Being the stupid cow that I am, Ive carried on talking to him. He's bad news and I know it. We were talking the one night last week and he was flirting like mad with me, flattering me, etc. Then he said he loves my body. He carried on flirting with me (I felt special, charmed and I liked it, even though I knew what he was up to)and then he asked me if I'd take some pics of me in my underwear and send them to him. He said if I did then he'd take some of his *manhood* and send them to me. I felt like I wanted this to happen at the time, so I did take some photos of me, in underwear. Then on Saturday, we were talking on Msn and sending each other some music and he was being really nice to me, then he talked me into sending him one of the pics of me and he sent me two of his you-know-what (that I mentioned before). Now Ive had time to think about it, I regret it so so much. I feel cheap and dirty for doing it. Even though it was only a picture I sent him, it still feels wrong. Im respectable , I don't do pics like that! On top of that I feel stupid for letting him talk me into it. I feel so, so, so stupid and nothing can make it better!! Wish I woulda ignored him, but I didn't. Now I feel pathetic. I knew/know he was/is bad. Was warned about him. He swears he wont show them to ANYONE but still I feel wierd about it. He hasn't talked to me much since either. Guess Ive been used. Im not wanting sympathy (because, hell I know I don't deserve it) I just want to know what I can do about it? Should I ignored him in future? Im just so, so confused!!!! :(xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey Fairy_Lu,
Yeah I know that he wont ask again so thats re-assuring!
Your ex put your pics on the net? Thats just too harsh!
Thanks again for answerin :) x
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 It only takes one bad move to make you realise that pics on the computer are not always so great, least you didnt have yours posted on a website that anyone could see (it was a very bad break up and my ex really wanted to hurt me it was a great xmas present to realise that anyone could see them after 3 years together you would have though he had more respect for me).
Atleast you know now that he knows how uncomfotable you were and he wont ask again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey :)Thank you everyone for your replies! The pics I sent didn't have my face on so Im glad about that - I actually thought before I sent them "If my face is on it, then he can prove its me. If my face isn't on it, then theres no telling who it is"Since I posted the question, the situation has moved on.Fairy_Lu, your right about having the face on pics and Im just glad I didn't have my face on them - I thought before I took them "If my face is on them then he can use it against me. If it isnt on them, then he can't prove its me"So, I talked to him again and told him how uncomfortable I was with the whole thing and that I regret it. He said Ok and that he's realised now that he shouldn't of asked for pics like that, especially with me being younger than him. He's promised me he's deleted the pics and Ive definately deleted his. Im glad to know that Im not the only girl thats done this and Im sure I won't be the last, but Ive definately learnt from it. I wont be sending pics ever again!!I feel a whole load better about it now!!!Thanks again everyone!!!xx
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (31 July 2008):
Sweetie dont worry to much about this you wre in your underwear so its not less then you would where on a beach your not the first person to beat yourself up about this.
Besides he sent you pictures back so you know he wont use this against you, least you know better now. Just becareful ok if you want to send pictures try not to put your face on them then atleast if the wrong person see's them they wont know its you
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hey you weren't the first and you wont be the last woman thats done it!
Dont beat yourself up about it, learn from it, and save saucy pics for someone special that you are in a commited relationship with.
C xxxx
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 You know what you did was wrong so I am not going to berate you for it. The pic is out of your hands now and he can show it to whomever he wants, including posting it on the internet. If you sent it to his phone or computer you can tell him how unconfortable you are and ask to be able to come over to delete the pic. Even if you do this, however, there is no guarentee that he wont have forwarded it or copied it before you come to delete. Perhaps the threat that you have pics of his personal bits that you could also broadcast would be a bit of protection. Did his pics show his face? Did yours? You can try having an honest discussion with the lad, but dont know how much good this will do. At least these werent pics of you in the buff as his was. Going to the beach you would probably show just as much, but that still doesnt make it good. Sorry, hun.
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