He takes other people's suggestions but shoots mine down, even though they're the same and he critizises me to his children... What's up with my boyfriend?

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I seem to be getting very irritated with my BF of 1 year. I'm not sure why but everything seems to bother me. I realize things start out with both people on their best behavior and once things settle it's more real. There have been 2 occasions where I suggested something to him and he either just shot it down or said no but - immediately after, someone else suggested the exact same thing and he said "that's great, thanks". I don't get it. I don't know if I'm overly sensative or things are just fizzling. He doesn't seem as affectionate, he sometimes speaks to me like he does to his kids and about a month ago we had a falling out over an old GF calling him and he actually told his kids I was a jealous person. Why would he discuss our personal stuff with his kids and catorgize me like that. I feel it will taint their view of me. I don't know, i'm starting to feel like i look for things that are wrong but not sure if its me. advice?

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