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writes:I am still confused on what to do..so here is my situation : i met this guy online. we been in a long distance relationship for 16months and we havent met in person yet.. we been planning to meet in person.. he been planning to come to my country several times but alot of hindrances happend like he got heart operation, after few months he had project coz he is an actor and need more money for vacation.. but then he already decided that he is coming supposed to be May 27 , 2011..but something happend.. he stopped communicating with me april 27, 2011.. i so blind.. i dont know what is his reason for why he is not communicating with me.. he deleted me on skype, never reply to my emails, no calls nor text..so i waited until now.. he didnt come to my country...i really wanna have peace of mind.. what shall i do? shall i call him? or shall i move on? i really cant move on coz i always think about him.. it was really a serious relationship..we even plan to get married when we get here and planned to go back with him to USA..i really dont know.. please HELP me... i need advices so badly :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Hi,
I think thats a sign that he wants to stop, or maybe he has some real problem and just cannot contact you. Anyway, he's so far away, you cant see him, cant figure out if what he has told you was real or not. I am in the same situation like you and I think I should move on and forget him, and invest in a real not virtual relationship.I know it is difficult to forget. But i've tried this and it really works: Anytime i think of him, I meditate. And I have one quote for you: dont cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. Hope you all the best thing in life! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes true.. i have to move on now.. i emailed him twice already but didnt get any reply from him... he is really coward.. if only i listened to my family and friends, for sure i not be hurt like this.. i been so blind because i really love him.. :(
Thank you for the help guys :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 oh dear.
he didn't add you to facebook... because he wants to keep his private life from his FAMILY and FRIENDS? hon, they ARE his private life... he's hiding something.
I fear he's lying to you and leading you on... and playing with you.
he has cut you off. he's effectively told you goodbye. he did it the cowards way and that sucks and I'm sorry.
give yourself time to grieve over this loss... and move on.
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reader, iiSparkle  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Hiya OP,
To me, it looks like he may be hiding something, because if he truly said that he liked you and so forth then he would have added you to his networking sites so that you both can post on each others walls and talk to each other through that, plus it's easier ect.
But he says he want's to keep his private life, private, that also is understandable, he may be saying this becasue you two haven't met in person so why should he tell everyone, when you both might not like each other in person.
It happens all the time, some people who meet up face to face will act like they do online, but others may appear to be different, so you can't really know.
But also if he really likes you and see's that you two may have a potential future together or a relationship then why would he be scared to let others know?
He may feel, embaressed by it or he's not ready.
You can't really do anything, i suggest you e-mail him asking him, what is up, and whether or not he wants to talk anymore, if he doesnt reply, then all you can do is to move on. It's going to be hard, but you'll find someone who really cares about you.
Also, if you e-mail him too much, he may think you're being overly obsessed and suffocating him, so keep the messages to a minimum, let him contact you.
Hope everything goes well, :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto iiSparkle : i had a feeling before that he might have a relationship with someone.. but i ignore that, coz i trust him.. he have facebook and other social netwroking sites, but he never add me.. i asked him why, he said doesn't want his friends and family know his personal life.. coz he said he is a private person..but for me its not a valid reason..he really hiding something... can u tell me how to background check to someone?
Thank you for the help :)
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reader, iiSparkle +, writes (11 June 2011):
Hiya,
Did it ever occur to you, that maybe he was just leading you on? He told you that he would visit but didn't on numerous occasions, maybe he isn't what he says he is.
Maybe, he has a relationship with someone else.
The thing which you need to keep in mind is that LDR's are hard, you need trust and be 100% committed.
You should try to contact him and see where things go from there, but also keep in mind that things may not go the way you want them to go.
Good luck :)
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