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writes:Alright, so i've been single for the past 6months or so and have been quite lonely. Well about a week ago someone from my past came back into my life. Around this time last year, me and my longterm boyfriend were on a seperation. Not a big deal for us, we just take a lot of breaks. Anyways, I met this guy and we started seeing eachother a lot, on a daily basis, and i fell hard for this guy. But then he stole something from my bestfriend at a party i had. I sadly ended it right after that and i was so angry at him that i told his work somethings he had really done, no lies, and ended up getting him fired. Well we he of course was extremely mad at me and we havent talked since. Well He's recently been talking to me again and pretending nothing had happened. And he asked me to go out with him again. Should I? Should I still be angry with him? Because the truth is, I've missed him so much. And I honestly believed that he cared about me and thats hard to find in someone. Do take the chance of fallin for him again and getting hurt? or maybe he's grown up a little? Reply to this Question
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reader, lupa-k  +, writes (24 April 2007):
Trust is the key aspect of most relationships. You need to ask yourself can you trust this person? Can you be sure that he has changed? From what you say, I'd lean towards the 'no' side, especially as he seems unwilling to discuss the past but prefers to ignore the fact that these things happened.
If you do opt to go for it, don't rush into things and let him earn your trust, prove to you that he is worth it
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): i wouldnt. sorry, i dont think thats what you wanted to hear but you sound confused at the moment. he sounds unscrupulous. you know he is a theif and whatever he did at work was so bad it got him fired (ok, you shouldnt have told on him, but then you know that). i understand that you miss him and you are lonely, but that isnt a good enough reason to get back with a man who caused you so much hurt in the past. whats to stop him doing it again? trust needs to be earnt, and you both have a lot of damage limitation to deal with. i would steer clear of him. look for a nice guy. one you can trust and respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): I say go out with him.
Him stealing from your friend was no more immature than you getting him fired for no reason, if he's willing to forgive you for that than he's a better guy than you're giving him credit for.
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reader, penta +, writes (24 April 2007):
 In your heart you know the answer to this question, or you wouldn't be asking, hoping for a different answer. You can't trust him. If he steals something from a friend again you're responsible. What if he steals from you? You're better off single.
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reader, xoTrineyxo +, writes (24 April 2007):
 no. its as simple as that.
If you're looking for trouble then yes.
If you;re looking for happiness then you better say no.
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