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writes:Hello all I was in a relationship with a guy for about 8 months. We met off a dating site. He seemed to be an exhibitionist which I gathered quickly early on. Still I thought well let's give it a go because he was a nice guy to me. We dated had some good times. Talked a lot online and he would sometimes be talking and suddenly pause for 5 mins. He would return to our convo and say "oh sorry I went to the washroom". I thought hmm kinda rude to just take off without saying anything. Anyways on one of our dates I went to his place. He asked if I was hungry and said he run out to get something to eat for us. When he left I noticed his computer was on with his chat. I looked and noticed he had a whack of saved conversations when he and I were chatting he was masterbating online for some other woman. That's why he kept pausing during our conversations. Their conversations made my hair stand on end. He returned I confessed I went on his chat and seen everything. He said " oh sorry we always talk about sex"! He knows this woman personally which made me even more sick. He said he's never slept with her. I said "you may as well have". I broke up with him. Left him alone. That was a year ago. We have been in contact here and there. He says he misses me and he's very sorry. He wants another try. So after about 5 months of on and off contact I went out with him. Afterwards I went back to his place. Things got heated and we had oral sex. We started to cuddle and he called me the other womans name that he talks and masterbates for! Needless to say it seems there's more going on with them and I said, " I can't believe u called me her name". He apologized. I left. No he's again contacting me wanting to see me. He feels I'm over reacting. Am I over reacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): No you are definitely not over reacting. You should never have gone back. he obviously has no respect for m women. You had a lucky escape as you found out what he was like early on. It would only be a matter of tome before he slipped up again.
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reader, Yetilicious  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 NO, definitely not overreacting. You gave this guy another chance and he blew it. Game over. There are so many awesome guys out there who are going to want YOU and not get your name wrong, or take time out of your convos to jack off to some other girl. That's disgusting and would make me want nothing to do with him. If he was with you and calling you some other girl's name, he was thinking about her, not you. I don't know about you, but I want a man who is thinking about me all the time and can't keep his mind off me...not someone who can't keep my name straight.
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reader, cupidus +, writes (5 April 2011):
 If you want to keep seeing him realize that you're probably only a figment of his imagination. If he's addicted to porn or other affairs or sex in general, than he's living in a dream world. You are not a you, you are a thing to him, a 2 Dimensional object. If that's ok with you and eh! It is ok, if it's ok with you, you may just want the sex too. He's living in a comic book where there is only fantasy.
When he misses you, he is missing his fantasy fix.
However, I'll have to tell you, if you are not into fantasy sex and if you want a REAL RS than let it go.
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