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writes:I went out with a guy for 3 months then we split up for 2 weeks. We got back together for 6 weeks then he said he wanted to be single. His last relationship was for 10 years. He still wants to keep in contact and we see each other when he is free and we sleep with each other. I am at the point where I am waiting for him to call and when he doesn't I think he isn't interested. He cooks me meals and takes me out as though we are togther but he has so much going on in his life he hasn't time for a relationship. I know he still cares but do I tell him how I feel as I want him back and miss him or do I say goodbye. When we are together it's great and I love being with him but can't move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007):
This guy has come out of a very long relationship, I suspect he is probably quite confused and maybe not ready to get in to another serious relationship yet.
He seems to show you signs that he likes you, he cooks for you, takes you out, but if he can't emotionally commit then I would take a step back and give him some time to see what he does.
Considering he has been in such a long relationship, I'm not surprised if he wants to have a more casual (sexual) relationship, I think anyone, man or women, would probably find themselves in a similar situation and it doesn't make them a bad person, at all.
If you want different things though, and he knows that, then it is wrong for him to lead you on. If you feel you can say goodbye, maybe that is for the best. But if you think things can work out, at least tell him what you want and then give him space and time to sort his head out, he may realise it is you that he wants.
All the best with whatever you decide to do.
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reader, Natzz +, writes (13 August 2007):
If you keep allowing him to come in and out of your life thats what he will do.if this is the way you want to play it let him dance to your tune.have sex when it suits you.let him see you have all the cards and if if put a step wrong the game is up.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Oh my god this sounds like my recent ex!!! I gave that BASTARD 2 months of my precious time for that CREEP. We had what I thought was a great relationship, but he text me one day and said he wanted the single life and dumped me. I foolishly met him on two separate occasions, thinking he had changed his mind and slept with him. BOY how wrong I was, he just used me as his FUCK BUDDY. Three months later he said he is seeing someone else, so "Single Life" didn't seem what it cut out to be. I felt dirty and used. Which is what this guy is basically doing to you, come on your an Intelligent Woman surely you can see he is having his cake and eating it.
Get rid of this waste of space now before he TOTALLY DESTROYS your self-worth and find a guy who is not what is classically known as a COMMITMENT PHOBE.
Sorry that I had to type this answer to you in this manner but this guy is a PLAYER.
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