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writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for five years, about 10 months ago he became friends with a girl. I was immediately uneasy about this friendship as he was very secretive and kept everything under the table so to speak. I only ever saw her briefly for a matter of minutes. I turned detective and discovered he calls her numerous times a day and countless text messages late at night, I also found out about numerous times that he was with her that he never mentioned to me. I questioned him and was told I was jealous etc etc and didn't want him talking to other girls. He would not see my point of view whatsoever, it ended up me feeling like I was doing something wrong. A few months later I discovered she had been sending him naked photos, again I confronted him and he said that she fancied him but he has no feelings for her like that at all, he said he thought he had deleted the photos also(lie!). I told him I was not comfortable with their friendship anymore and said that I did not want him to talk or see her anymore. He told me he wouldn't and said he saw where I was coming from when i asked him to put himself in my shoes. However I have now found out 5/6 weeks later he is still talking to her and that he still has the photos saved on his phone! Opinions people please!!!
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (29 July 2012):
 If you need to ask for opinions on this matter, I am afraid that you will keep on taking whatever pile of s^^t they lay out for you. Come on girl, snap out of it and look at this objectively.* You only saw this "friend" once and very briefly* He talks and texts her secretly* He is receiving naked pictures of her and keeping them* He is contact with her even though he said he wouldn't beIt's pretty clear that you're being played and you're allowing him to keep playing with you. If they were indeed friends, he would NOT:1. Have naked pictures of her2. Keep their relationship a secretThose are NOT traits of a friendship. Do you have any male friends that send you naked pictures of themselves and you have to talk to them when your boyfriend is not around? Do your friends, family and parents have those types of friends or acquaintances? No. Those are the traits of a SEXUAL relationship. And if you think for one second he is not cheating on you, you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (29 July 2012):
 He's messing you around, I wouldn't be surprised if he's sleeping with her, your obviously not gettin the truth from him so why not confront her, if someone was sending naked pictures to my partner I wouldn't just let it slip, I'd make sure it didn't happen again, he is showing no respect for you at all, dump him
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reader, Ashco  +, writes (29 July 2012):
Two words DUMP HIM.
He is probbly cheating on you with her, not to metion he said he would cut contact with her but didn't therefore it makes him a liar aswell.
I know this may seem harsh but if he is doing this now then 9 chances out of 10 he's probby been doing this through out your whole relationship.
Dump him he its disrespectful and you should find someone who won't do that to you.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (29 July 2012):
 First time you confronted him, he laid the guilt on you, making you feel like you were the bad guy for having legitimate suspicions.
Second time you confronted him, he "pretended" to understand where you were coming from, and agreed to cut contact with her. Of course he had no intentions of doing so.
He's cheating on you
"I turned detective and discovered he calls her numerous times a day and countless text messages late at night, I also found out about numerous times that he was with her that he never mentioned to me."
Right here is all the evidence you need. This is the behavior of a man who is cheating.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (29 July 2012):
 Oh dear. Well the fact is that he's lied to you and you have evidence of cheating. I wouldn't believe what he says. You know about the phone calls, text messages and naked photos. Therefore I'd finish with him and move on if I was you. You have all the evidence, and when it's written down in black and white it seems very clear. Good luck.
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