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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend has pictures of his ex girlfriend in his home, both with him and her and her with his kids. i have mentioned on 2 occasions that it bothers me but he said they are just pictures and his kids are in them so he's leaving them up.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Why don't you have pictures taken with his kids and put them in a frame and give them to him as a present. That way he can take the old ones down. He really should take them down, leaving them up there is being very insensitive to your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Are they his children? I say fine to compromise on the pictures of kids only but the ones with GF should go out of respect to you and your relationship.
It his past and needs to remain in his past.
If he will not accept your reasons and respect them; are you prepared to be with someone who can do this?
This will grow into something uglier and hurt more and more as the days go by. Every time he is disrespectful, inconsiderate, ungrateful, commits offense and shows no remorse, those pictures will come to represent just how much he or how less he thinks of you.
He either decides to hear you and see your side and compromises or he doesn't.
Then it is in your court, you decide what you will do and what you will forgive and tolerate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): unfortunately for you, she was a major part of his life and that is something u have to come to terms with. you dont say how long ago she was the ex. if its a recent ex.... you have to let him heal, he will take them down when he feels its right - if you cannot deal with it, leave him. simple.
if its an ex of ages ago, then why dont the two of you sit down and make a coulage with all photos, get them nicely arranged in a frame and you can slighly cover up the ex with another pic....it wont bother you then cos its not just HER framed, its more of a piece of art from your mans past... his past - which is fine. remember hes with you, and his ex, is an ex for a reason....
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