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writes:what is going on here....so I was with this guy for about 2 months, i really liked him, infact I havn't felt this way about some-one for a very long time.However as great as I thought he was, it turned out he was still sleeping with his ex girlfriend whilst he was also with me. I found out he had done this once, and forgave him once he'd told me that he was totally finished with her now. He basically told me everything I wanted to hear. Anyway a month later he ends it with me, telling me he still has really big feelings for his ex girlfriend.It left me really surprised because i thought our relationship had started to progress.Anyway I told myself he wern't worth it, but only 2 days later he texts me. 'Hey x x x' I ignore it, as i know the only way to get over him is to distance myself for a while.The next day, however i get abother text off of him.'I miss you x x x' I did write back to him because i do hope that we remain friends, however he was still being really suggestive and complimenting me. Bascially acting as if he'd never finished with me?!?!What is this guy playing at?Any ideas?Sorry it was a long story, please help me out =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): You should really confront him with this. Tell him that you're not a game and to stick with his old girlfriend. Because its never worth having to feel like that. If someone can throw you away one second and try to pick you up the next they're really not worth it. Hope you throw a glass of water in his face xP
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): He is playing mind games with you. He cannot quite decide yet which one he actually wants to be with so he is trying to keep you on the end of a string. So you can be reeled in just when and if the need arises. I would tell him to buggar off! I bet he is doing the same with his ex. Get rid!!!
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reader, uhuh...right  +, writes (9 November 2007):
Girl, you need to run and run like hell. You have to establish your worth with him. How you react to this will define how he will treat you later. If you go back to him and compete with his feelings for his exgirlfriend (which obviously still exist), he will keep you in competition with her or someone else forever. If you stick to your guns and refuse to put yourself in the position to be hurt like that again, he will understand that he cannot treat you like that. It may be that one day ... very far down the road ... you may be able to try again with this person, if you want to, but beware ... guys don't change very often, but they do respond to consequence. Don't let him slide through this without a consequence. If you go back, what did he loose? He's in control. At the least, you can show him what you will accept and how you will be treated ... maybe someone else, someone that will treat you better, will be paying attention ... My mom always said "Whatever you have to do to get a man, you will have to do to keep that man". If you have to forgive him to get him, be ready to forgive him for the rest of your relationship because he will do it again. If you go back to him now, you are telling him that it is ok to do that. Don't do it, girl. Believe me ...
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