A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:hey, im very confused about my situation and i was hoping someone could help me. i liked this guy for about three years but i was cripplingly shy and couldnt tell him. i went out with him for two months, but he never wanted to meet up because he was too shy. I was understanding but it killed me inside, because i wanted to be with him. i wasnt anywhere near ready to split with him. i wanted to hate him but i couldn't, so i blamed myself for not going out with him sooner and hated myself. I became very depressed and didn't want to talk to anyone because i was so afraid of burdening them. i refused to go out with him a couple of years back because i wasn't sure i liked him in that way, and i was terrified of what my friends would say. I know it killed him. He even sent me pictures of himself crying and in his own words 'to make you feel guilty'. I was so confused and upset because we were bestfriends.Now my ex is always texting me telling me how beautiful and stunning i am and how he even wants to marry me when we're older.Some of the things he says to me practically screams that he fancies me, but i know he doesn't, so why would he send texts like that? The mixed signals are driving me crazy. I know him very well but some times he's just too strange for words! he compliments me constantly and i can't get over him. At all. He dumped me a couple of months ago and i've not got over him. i'm definitely not ugly (but not stunning in any way) and i am healthy and fit so my figure is alright. I want to be friends with him, but i'm worried that subconciously that is because i still fancy him. We are very close and i can tell him anything and vica versa. He is outrageously flirtacious with what he says and when I'm with him he touches me a lot. I dont mind...because i still fancy him like mad. He doesn't realise and i can't tell him, because i'm certain i'll be rejected, and he'll be so embarrassed. Sorry this is so long and complicated. it also sounds so stupid, when there are people out there with serious issues, but its gnawing at me. I need to find a way out. thanks so much xx
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reader, Sookie  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Just tell him how u still feel then let him know that the ball is in his court now and he needs to let u know how he feels so that if the feelings are not mutual u can move on good luck!
Sookie
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