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writes:hello, me and my boyfriend have been together for four years, he started up in his own business a year ago, and since then he has had very little time for me, which i must admit was expected and for some time to come as i understand how busy he is.now this may be nothing but on my pc he sent email to a woman (only job related), but it showed that she is working for him, has been for a few months, and that they go out and do jobs together. Nothing in the mail suggested that anything was happening between them.Now i know i should not have read this mail but curiosity took over as he did cheat once a few years ago but we moved on since then and i am dealing with it good.i do not understand why he has not told me about this woman, why he has not told me they spend days together working.I did ask him last week after i read it, whether he had considered hiring someone, and he said no he wasnt ready to hire people yet.He does not know i read the mail, but before i admit to it id like some input from an outsiders view, why do you think he would keep this secret? whats the purpose of hiding her? should i worry im grateful for any feedback on this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): he is trying to cover up something....maybe he is working to hard and playing away too hard as well (with this other woman???) he delibertely lied to you . why? well why don;t you surprise him at his work one day.obviouly looking your best.
he is not spending too much of time with you but trying to make his business a success. and he is working all the time with her. sometimes when we spend too much of time together with a person something develops. you need to find out whether anything is developing/has developed bet the two. you can never be too sure .
i am really really curious why he lied about his woman. plse find out as well. and start insisting he takes a break and spend time with you. you two need to reconnect and what better way than with you becoming overly interested in his business?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): How did you find out about the last affair that he had? Was it through email or text or somethign similar? Because if it was, then he would probably me much more aware of how to hide it the next time, if there is a next time. Meaning, he wouldn't write things in his emails that could be intrepreted as having an affair.
Before I got to the part that said he'd cheated before, I was thinking that he probably didn't tell you becuase there was nothign to tell and it was nothing to him that he had jobs with this woman.
But then my suspicions chagned. And if you asked him if he hired anyone, and he lied about it, then there is definitely reason to suspect cheating, and you should most certainly confront him on it, or do some more searching first, as he may not admit to it.
And if you find out that he is, THEN YOU NEED TO GET AWAY FROM HIM. A cheater is a cheater is still a damn cheater.
~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Hi, Your boyfriend probably doesn't want you to think anything is going on between him and another woman. His job might be really important, so he doesn't have much free time. To make sure nothing is going on talk to him, dont be afraid, he will understand. Just Get things straight and ask him whats been going on.
I Hope this helps you!
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