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writes:Ok so i was working at tesco over christmas and the security guard kept smiling at me and talking to me i really took a shine to him but we never liked swaped numbers or anything. my mums bf works with him, and my mum knows him, and to make matters worse i have a bf.But i keep bumping in to him like today and he smiles at me i really like him but to shy to tell him. What should i do advice pleasesss..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes he is near my age he's not old i should of put that. My mum does approve she thinks hes really nice. And i am going to finish with my bf as we really dont get on no more i think thats why we have started to drift of and start liking other people.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Oh my word, it doesnt take much to arouse your interest does it?
Maybe you should start by letting your boyfriend go. i dont think you would be too happy if you knew that he was chasing other girls while still going out with you would you? Do the right thing, if you want to play the field, be single.
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Smiling at you could mean that he likes you. But it could just mean that he's just a nice guy who smiles at people. It could also mean that smiling at everyone is a required part of the security guard job at that company.
I don't mean to throw a wet blanket over your crush, but it's hard to know what smiling means (out of context).
It's hard to tell you how to find out what he feels, because I keep bumping into the fact that you have a BF. Flirting with someone else while you're dating him is really uncool. You should always be done with someone before moving on to the next one -- unless you've talked and both of you are free to date other people?
So, putting aside the BF for a minute, talk to your mom about the security guard; since she knows him, it's unlikely you'll be able to do anything about or with him unless you have her help/blessing. Maybe she likes him and would approve (I'm assuming he's much younger, closer to your age.) If so, she can tell you about him.
And as far as knowing whether he's flirting or just being friendly -- does he look directly into your eyes when he smiles? Does he go out of his way to talk to you? Does he look at you and smile when he's supposed to be talking to someone else? That would mean flirting, in my book.
As for what *should* you do? Nothing. You have a boyfriend. And unless you're willing to drop the boyfriend and talk with your parents AND talk to this guy enough to find out how he feels, then the smiles are the most you can expect. Good luck.
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