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*ara3414
writes:ok so here goes... i met this man who says he really likes me. we did oral sex but nothing else he texted me and rang all the time and i met up with him again and had unprotected sex. he continued to tell me he really liked me ect and we arranged ro meet up again. he was ok but very quite on the day i met him. he told me he got checked before he slept with me and yesterday said he had got chlamidia but didnt know he had it otherwise he wudnt of slept with me. he said he feels ashamed and cant look at me he gave me the slip to take to my local g.u.m clinic. problem is i still like him and he said his not ready for a gf his head is messed up and if he did want one he wud go out wiv me. he still is textin me and calin me al the time. i told him i cant sleep wiv him no more coz it will hurt me more he said he wants to be friends and still hang out. i just feel really confussed. coz he acted so interested. his a great bloke and i respect him more for telling me he had an std coz he cud of just cut of contact and not told me.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (24 November 2009):
 Well done sweetheart, you have been sensible and let's be fair you were just looking for some love and affection.
You were out of the dating game and you were probably feeling very vunerable so don't be too hard on yourself.
It was a harsh lesson to learn but one that may stand you in good stead for the future.
We are all here at any time, even just for a chat so don't be afraid to come back and talk to us at any time. We don't say one time only on this site so please feel free to stay in touch, maybe next time it could be about the man of your dreams, who knows eh!!
Take care and well done your on the right track now.
BFN
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reader, sara3414 +, writes (24 November 2009):
sara3414 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help guys i have realised this and told him i just wanna be mates. i have been to clinic and got loads of condoms. i am very gulible. he was the first guy since comming out of a four year relationship. its taught me a big lesson!! so im just waiting for results of all stds. i wont be played again!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): Get treated for the STD at least. Thats all you can do. And tell him to stop calling and texting you. He's just keeping you on the leash here. Not looking to date you, only looking for the casual sex. I do believe he's a good guy too, it was proper of him to tell you he has an STD. And he's responsible to get himself checked. But bottom line is the STD got nothing to do with this. He doesnt want a girlfriend right now and you need to let him go.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (20 November 2009):
So you think it is big of him to tell you after the event that he has an STD than just walking away?
Hmm in my opinion if you have just met a guy then both of you should be having SAFE sex all the time, never mind the pregnancy element of all of this, you have ended up having to take a slip to the clinic, really romantic eh!
Sweetheart, don't be fooled by this guy, he obviously can't be bothered to put his hand in his pocket and buy some condoms and then when he gets a problem, he has to go back to any girl he has been with to tell them he NEVER thought would happen, I personally believe he is a player and has been having unprotected sex with several females so in my mind I think you may have had a lucky escape - he is not someone you can look up to. That is my personal opinion.
I would say though that I would get to know someone a bit more in future and certainly get some of your own condoms and NEVER risk anything in the future as it could be so much worse than just an STD on another occasion it could be HIV or an unwanted pregnancy. You are old enough to realise the risks but you need to take precautions, don't leave it down to the man as they don't always prepare themselves like us women, we are the multi taskers at the end of the day, so be like a girl guide and be prepared.
How old was this guy btw?
I don't mean to be a nag but I guess the mum in me comes out and you are a similar age to my nieces so just take care of yourself OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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