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He slept with his ex and now she is pregnant, I am so hurt and confused!

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Question - (7 June 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 7 June 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

my boyfriend slept with his ex who he cant stand while i was pregnant with his baby and now she is pregnant. he said its not his and i got to get over it but i cant. he said he was confused as we were having problems but i cant get past it. i told him he must have a dna test to make sure and if it his his baby i dont think i could live with it. i would expect him to be a father to both children but i wouldnt be with him. i couldnt bare it. he loves me every bit as i love him but im hurt and confused.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010):

I don't think it matters whether the child is his or not the issue here is that he slept with his and apparently someone he can't stand. If he can sleep with someone he can't stand then who else can he sleep with. I can imagine that your majorly hurt and confused but whether you were having problems or not he should have stuck by you and supported you, you were pregnant afterall. He probably does love you but men have the ability to switch off from that to avoid passing up an opportunity when it presents itself. I think you should focus on you and your baby and let him do what he is doing. You will spend every day with him worrying about what he is up to. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but I've stayed with someone who has cheated and you turn yourself mental with worry and it only gets worse over time. I hope this helps.

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A female reader, jagged United States +, writes (7 June 2010):

jagged agony auntthat's wrong. if he really loved you then he wouldn't have cheated on you. he proved that he is a terrible man. i think the best thing for you to do is just forget about him and move on.

i'm sorry you had to go thru that.

--Ally!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010):

"....my boyfriend slept with his ex who he cant stand while i was pregnant with his baby and now she is pregnant....' not only does he lie to you but makes her pregnant too. if he cannot stand his ex how did he impregnant her?

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (7 June 2010):

person12345 agony auntI'm sorry you're going through this. Any guy who sleeps with an ex and tells you to get over it isn't taking the situation very seriously. I'm not sure what you can do at this point, but you'll have to decide whether you can live with this or not. It's not something you need to "get over." Yes I understand a child is involved, but that doesn't mean you're obligated to stay with him.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (7 June 2010):

raiders agony auntIf he loved as much as you love him he wouldn't have cheated.

If you don't feel you can be with him if he is proven to be the father than it would be the best thing to walk away, since its not the child fault.

I wish you luck and I'm sorry you have to go through this.

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