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30-35,
*alerie
writes:i was with this guy for about one year and he was a great guy i never had a guy like him before and i never felt the way about another guy and he would always buy me expensive things couse he said that he loved me and he wanted to stay with me for ever and get married one day and hav children and i have been in a abusive relationship before where the guy put me in the hospital and this guy was differnt for the first 8 months and i thought he was the one then about 8 months after being with him he was being mean because i text my brother saying good night and my ex boyfriend can in and wanted my phone and said that 'im not going to be on the phone at bed time" then i told him that i didnt want to be with someone so controlling. so i broke up with him then he slaped me in the face 2 times leaving me with a swollen eye and it was bruised bad then i kept him from leaving and then just about a couple of weeks ago he was making me mad and then i wouldnt talk to him so he pinched me in front of his friends and then left me with a bruised arm and swollen neck so i called the cops and got a restraining order on him and now i can stop crying all the time will i get over him or not becouse i still love him with all my heart i need to know if i can move on or if i should go back becouse he only pinched me but i dont know if it will get worse?
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reader, Kody  +, writes (7 March 2007):
Valerie
I have a code of honor the number one rule is never ever ever hit a girl its down right lower then sin itself.If a guy hits you dont think twice leave cause it will just escalate there are plenty of other fish in the sea.If he abuses you now think in the futuer it could be worse go out and buy your self something nice you deserve it girl,
Sincerly Kody
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): You love him with all your heart because you simply don't love yourself enough. No one with a strong and refined mentality and secured lifestyle would fall so deeply and badly for someone like him.
Bluntly put, you cannot and will never move on if you aren't strong on the inside first. If you want to move on, you need to step back and build yourself first, then expand outwards as you are ready along the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): no relationship is like that is worth crying over he treated you badly, even though you still love him, instead of thinking about the good times you have to think about the bad things and try to put him out of your mind, remember the reason you broke up its the easiest thing to forget when yo love someone but its the best thing to remember so you dont make a mistake, i know this is hard and will take time but he treated you badly and no one deserves that. he doesnt deserve your love you need to try and find someone who is. i know it will be hard first of all but you can get through it, everyone has a soulmate out there somewhere and you will find them in the end, everyone does, just believe in yourself and get on with your life as best you can, you cant let him harm you anymore than he has done already. hope this helps.
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