A
female
age
36-40,
*olister1986
writes:Hi thereI've been seeing this guy for just over 6 wks now and things were great, he would call me and text me everyday. He would ring me up say he missed me and say you staying at mine tonight and would always want me around, he would make time for me after work.And now since he went out with his mates on Saturday he don't wanna know me at all, does not call me or text me doesn't want me around him, I just don't get it... I've asked him if he's ok and all I get is "yes why"...! And also bringing up that he doesn't have enough time for me how, he's gonna see another girl. I don't understand it, I've never said anything about another girl to him but that's all he brings up, I've always given him space as I've come home for a few days but he always wanted me around for that whole 6 weeks, but now nothing.Please help me.
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2014): It always hurts to be played hot and cold... Which unfortunately all men seem to go through a phase of. Where as women quite easily develop long lasting emotional connecrions, a lot of men just swing about all over the place- it just happens over and over again, one minute the bloke is all over you, offering to walk the hour home with you, and sometimes it even seems to the end of the earth with you, all in the hope of (whether he subconsciously knows it) just getting you to stay for a passion night... In general I find young men, unless they're truly in LOVE with you, often just playing the field. Men don't have the same emotional temperament as women, as just look at how differently men and women persue relationships?? It's a fact were wired differently. So don't take it personally, you just happened to be sucked in this time, like most girls will be time and time again. And like caring guy said, it's not a love connection and it's not like you wasted years on him... Block him and move on. Take care :) x
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 April 2014):
 It was 6 weeks and that's not a lot of time... the fact that you guys crammed 3 months of dating into six weeks just makes it feel that way.
He's moved on to the next 6 week relationship. As long as you have all your things then just block and ignore. If you have stuff at his and you can replace easily, make it so. Pretend like he never existed.
Next time you meet a guy you REALLY like, resist the urge to see him 24/7 or do overnights at first. In fact, I would do ONE maybe TWO dates (not back to back) a week for the first six weeks with NO sex and NO OVERNIGHTS and see how it goes.
There is a great book called "Why men love Bitches" and it can explain the "ju-ju-bee" method of dating to you. Men in general like to WORK for their conquests... doling out your attentions and affections ONE small ju-ju-bee (a small sweet candy) at a time keeps them coming back for more and trying to get more and more... it's actually rather fun for a girl to be pursued this way.. quite the ego stroke... also weeds out the guys that are just in it for what they can get with minimal effort in a short period of time.
...............................
A
male
reader, CMMP +, writes (3 April 2014):
There isn't much anyone can do at this stage. You barely know the guy and he dumped you for another girl. It wasn't a love connection, luckily you found out sooner than later.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2014): I agree , he doesn't really sound worth it to me . what he was doing with you over the 6 weeks he is prob doing with the other girl now . you can get another man easily
...............................
A
female
reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 April 2014):
 You're not seriously thinking of sticking around are you?
Whatever you had is over and your ex boyfriend has already moved on. There is nothing a discussion will fix here.
I suggest you block/delete him from Facebook, cell phone and email. Even if he did want to come back, he's not a keeper.
...............................
|
