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writes:Hello friends, please your help is much needed right now, so i've been with this guy aroung 6 months, 3months we dated long distance, he was cold for some time so i broke up with him but then he came back few weeks later asking for a serious relation that will lead to marriage and he found me a job in his current country and asked me to relocate. everything was perfect and he was nice and consistent till i received a text from him that he wrongfully sent me , wishing me happy birthday and that he has a surprise for me, he called me sexy and hot stuffs. i went mad and replied he said that he was sending it ti his good friend ana and that she knows about me bla bla... should i believe him? the content was not too friendly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot for the replies, the thing is i don't live in his country and he sent a message to a girl who was away and coming back to his city supposedly today, the message was like : happy birthday super sexy hope ur having fun in france, i miss u here in england and i want u back as i have a birthday surprise for you :) , i went crazy when i got it, he said she's just a friend and he's gonna connect the 2 of us the minute she comes back, but i didn't buy it, the guy is obviously flirting with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): I think u wouldn't call just a friend hot stuff and sexy
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): Nope...thats not believable at all. Who calls just a friend "sexy" and "hot stuff"? That too when you say the content was not too friendly. Warning signals. Please be careful.
Similar thing happened with me one...this ABSOLUTE jerk that i was stupid enough to trust sent me a message that was supposed to be for some woman called Samantha...He wrote..."Ok Sam...cant wait to see you tomorrow evening"...and when I confronted him, he said Sam was for Samuel. Obviously that was just bullshit.
I would say dont believe him, or at least ask him what's going on here. Why these messages for another girl when he's supposed to be dating you?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (5 September 2010):
Hi there. It's hard to know. Was he being evasive? Did he seem to be a bit offhand?
Time will tell. Listen to your intuition and whatever it is telling you.
Try not to ask too many questions, as if you are suspicious. Just mainly be aware of where he is going and if he is going out more than usual. Also, keep a mental note of times he gets home from work and whether he says he is working late.
Just mainly be a bit more aware than usual without showing any overdue concern. Try not to make him suspicious that you might be keeping tabs on him. That would only cause friction and resentment.
Try instead, to trust him and see what happens from now on. For now, give him the benefit of the doubt and take it with a grain of salt and don't read too much into it.
If he starts becoming secretive or going out a lot, coming home very late and not really saying much about where he's going or getting touchy if you ask him, perhaps then be a bit suspicious. If he gets defensive about his mobile phone if you go near it, or if he leaves it at work or in the car - then he might be hiding something.
If none of these last few things ever happen, it's probably nothing to worry about.
What I suggest is, if he tells you where he's going and seems to be open and honest, well he probably is being honest. As long as things don't prove otherwise (from what he's told you), you can be sure he is being truthful.
This is what I really believe.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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