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writes:hi, i've been with my boyfriend for over 10 months now an he means the world to me, but recently he seemed to of changed to a person ive never seen before an now he's called it off for a bit so he can find out wat he really wants. i said to him i wont be waiting all day for him but i hope he realsies he still wants me but hes sayt hat im better off with out him . i feel as if he might be scared? an tryin to get out of it because he might get hurt? plz help because i dnt no what to think thanxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): maybe he's done something to betray you and doesn't want to do it again so he broke up with you, but he may still love you he just doesn't think he's worthy
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 Hi there,
It must be tough I know . But unfortunatley there is little you can do is someone stops loving you . It looks like this is the case, guys find it very hard to tell a girl that they don't love them anymore as we worry that she may flip out.
Now, of course this is the worst case scenario, he may very well see the error of his ways and come crawling back to you. But if he does you need to know that in another 10 months, or 1 year, or 2 years, he simply isnt going to do it again. Guy's who have commitment problems are of a kind, they flitter from one relationship to the next leaving a trail of destruction and broken hearts in their wake.
So just be weary, if he wants you back don't let him simply come back, you need him to prove to you that he is deserving of your love, you after all are not the one who has abandoned him, he has left you.
But steel yourself and be strong, don't give him too long, you can't put your life on hold, at your age you have your whole life ahead of you. My best advice is to move on if he doesnt come crawling back real soon. Even then you may end up in a rollercoaster ride of emotions as he struggles to commit himself to you. It simply may not be worth it.
You deserve better. Good luck anyway.
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