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writes:I met this man at work. He does not work at my company but delivers to the receiving office where I work on a daily basis. We were really getting to know each other and I actually thought we were flirting with each other. It attracted me and I think him too. He is 50 and divorced (and not seeing anyone, he says)and I am 49 and just seperated recently. I did tell him that I seperated and the last 2 days since then, rather than come into the office like before and talk, he now, the last 3x, has gone to the office window to hand in his paperwork. Is he is avoiding me? Why? I didn't talk to him at all today and made sure I left when he came by. I made it look like I was just too busy You know? no drama or pissy attitude, anyway after truck driver guy left and I said to the other guy in the office that I work with, "what he's too good for us now to come in the office? and laughed and the other guy said he won't come in anymore cuz I told him you want him. I said "Why would you do that" ( felt horrified at the thought if it were true, hope not!) he said he really didn't say that he was just joking, but never-the-less, this guy doesn't seem the same. I left the office when he came by to disappear a bit until he left but as I came back to my desk, there he was in the office talking to the other guy! What, he can go in there if I'm not in there? I don't understand this? he always came into the office before. I just don't understand men! Was he waiting for me? I was gone quite awhile and he really should of been gone and as I was walking back to my desk, I did catch him looking at me, but he turned away quickly. I made a point to not talk to him until he left and neither one of us said goodbye which was the first time and is unusual cuz we have always said the normal goodbye or see ya later formalities. So I just don't know. Any suggestions with this mess?. What am I to do now, this feels awful. I want it to be like it was before. Will it? does this even like me?
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reader, candy4 +, writes (10 December 2009):
candy4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontODAY Mr. Truck driver guy opened a door for me and proceeded to talk to me about what blew into his house last night that scared him and his dog. I was coming back fro getting coffee and he opened the door for me. I hope he is starting to like me. I sure wish that he would ask me to spend christmas with him. I know it's probably to soon, but this guys seems to go out of his way to talk to me, say hello, goodbye and now opening doors? What do you all think. Is this something that could be starting? My co-workers all tease me now, like maybe they see something more that I don't. I work with all men too! Someone please, give me your opinions!Thanks
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reader, candy4 +, writes (10 December 2009):
candy4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSaw Mr. truck driver guy driving in as I was walking out for lunch today. I was greeted with the biggest smile and wave that you could ever imagine! It made my day. He also came into the office today as well. Of course he was looking for a broom to sweep out his truck but he followed me into the store room while I looked for one, but we didn't find one. I yelled at him to not be unsociable and he better not not come into the office anymore, none of this window business! Jokingly I said that, he was laughing too. I really hope he likes me. I'm not sure if I have the nerve to ask him out for coffee. I know he works a lot driving so his free time is mostly on the weekends. I would rather have him ask me. It really has only been almost a month since this attraction thing started. Any more advise? Thank you for your first response.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): Oh, don't stress yourself out over this, it will just have to play itself out and you can't make him walk where you want him to walk when you want him to walk and talk (whew! see what I mean?) Apparantly, your office mate has picked up on the vibe that you do want him and is just playing with you, I don't really think he said that to him do you??
I think you are telling yourself a story about what his behavior means and you could be wrong. He may have gotten yelled at by his boss that morning or be in a bad mood or have a lot on his mind and he just isn't thinking about you. If you really want to know, I guess the next time you get him alone ask him if he would like to go get coffee with you sometime. I can't tell if he likes you, he probabl does, but he may be wary of getting involved with someone he works around, it could be a hundred different things, but if he doesn't step it up soon, then you have to do it. What have you got to lose? Sometimes men get tired of doing the asking and getting rejected and sometimes they are just not that interested. Since we aren't mind readers if you want to take a chance, then ask him out...it is allowed in 2009 for a woman to do that...start with something small, like having a cup of coffee and chatting...good luck!
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