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26-29,
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writes:Basically, there's this guy I really like.I met him at a training day at work, back in July, and he added me on Facebook and we'd been, speaking a bit and then we started texting. He's so friendly and kind, and I know this will sound odd - but he's genuinely perfect. He's kind, he actually cares what I have to say and sends proper replies - not just "kay". However, occasionally it feels like I'm putting in a bit more effort, but could that just be because I like him that I'm over analyzing everything? I'm prone to doing that. The only other small problem, which I wouldn't let bother me, is there's this girl I know from a few years ago (we don't get on) and they're really good friends, but she lives like 3 hours away - so I doubt it would be an issue at all.What do I do? I have literally 0 idea, but I know that I like this guy and I don't want to do nothing and miss my chance.Thanks xo
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reader, lalina  +, writes (28 August 2012):
If you dont want to miss your chance make sure you ask him is he involve with anyone, the truth always comes out. The let him know that you are interested in him.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (27 August 2012):
 Is he about the same age as you - or a fair bit older? I mean, you're only 13 or at most 15. That's a bit young to have boyfriends - NOT, I hasten to add, that you have given any indication that you see him as such. However, it could be the reason (you perhaps being quite a bit younger) that he doesn't put as much effort into the friendship as you do.
What I'm saying is he may just be trying to responsible and not encourage you unduly.
Anyway, regarding the girl who is a "really good friend of his": my response is, so what? He is entitled to be friends with whoever he wishes, you know.
The thing is this: IF you were, say, 18 or so and were dating someone then you might expect "him" not to have other girlfriends.
The way it works is when you date a person for a while, the two of you, if all goes well, may begin to think about being exclusive and not dating anyone else. It's important to note that this is a matter a girl and boyfriend discuss and BOTH agree not to have any other bf or gf.
There is one exception which is that either of you may have friends of the opposite sex and those friendships are strictly platonic - i.e., you don't have sex with them, not when you are supposed to be exclusive with your boyfriend or girlfriend that is. Nor do you try to hide the fact that you have other friends (some of whom you might have already known for a long time) from your partner.
Now: I am aware you didn't ask about exclusivity. The reason I'm telling you how it works is for your information.
Other than this, I'd say to you just relax and enjoy the conversations you have with this man, but don't take it too seriously or daydream about getting romantic. Plenty of time for that a few years later!
All the best to you.
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