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writes: I hope someone can help me with this.My partner of two years asked me last night; when was the last time he'd had fun in bed with me.I was quite shocked. I always believed he enjoyed sex with me, always thought we had a very good sex life.He said he'd told me before (not that I recall) and that he was bored, stuck in a rut, that we always do the same things.I said that we needed to talk about what he wanted. He said he didn't have time to argue, just to do things or go to sleep. One minute he was telling me that I shouldn't touch him (penis) at all because he didn't wish to become over aroused. He said he didn't need touching there, he would always be ready and aroused and that I should keep my hands to myself! I said he would have to tie me to the bed, (in my mind, this is all part of foreplay) but he doesn't wish for that because then intercourse doesn't last long.Then he said that I hadn't devoted my time to pleasuring him for ages (as in allowing him to lie still and me arouse him). He said that when I had, he enjoyed it sometimes and then I would do something that he didn't like. I got confused and asked him if he knew what he wanted. He said variation.I think I would need to be a mind reader?? Do I touch him or not? I really got put off it all last night and I'm not sure I will be able to make love now without feeling as if I'm walking on egg shells.The thing that gets me is that it was me suggesting to have sex the other day, only for him to say he wasn't in the mood (no mention of boredom/rut) and I have suggested before different things that he suddenly couldn't remember last night. If I suddenly suggested sex in the middle of the day, he would say it was bad timing, turn me down.Can anyone help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): when he says "variation", he means various other people I bet.
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