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*ah mouw
writes:Well, my boyfriend and I have been having a little bit of trouble, we took a break for about 2 and a half weeks just to give each other space. We haven't fought, just one heated conversation which we got over. He says he's scared that our relationship will not work and I've just been trying to stay positive. I talked to him ealier today and he said that our relationship is getting stale...What does that mean?... How can I change that? How can I help him be more positive on this... We both just want this to work. How can we make this work... Well, I mean do you have any suggestions to help this to be more successful. How can I help him not be so scared.
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reader, lindabe88 +, writes (29 October 2007):
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): It does not matter how much YOU love someone, to them the only thing that matters is how much THEY love you.
Does not matter if YOU do not think it has gone stale, what matters is that he obviouly does. You cannot talk someone around because feelings are not thoughts and word, feelings are just that, feelings. Have you ever been talked into feeling a certain way? If the ugly lad down the road fancied you like mad, you know, the fat guy who weight 400 lbs and has spots, would you like him back just because he likes you? You may be flattered but HIS feelings towards you have NOTHING to do with your feelings towards him right.
Read between the lines, I am going to be harsh but at least it is honest. Would you ever split up with someone you were really attracted to and loved?
Right answer that and ask yourself why he has split up with you.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 October 2007):
 You took a break. Big problem in relationships, since the relationship its self usually is not the problem. But the problem for taking a break is, a break means something not working. Instead of staying in the relationship and working on an issue, by taking a break, sounds like he's developed fears of it not working. It's almost like, "we took a break before, showing the possibility things were going wrong, so what's going to make it any different now."
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