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writes:I'm living in a house with 3 guys.I fooled around with one of the guys before i moved in but it cooled off and stopped before i moved in.But within the last month weve been cuddling, and started having sex. Were trying to hide it from the roommates, but a few people do know...We kiss and usually sleep in the same bed but its been getting more ovious to the public whats going on.He told me when we first started that this is just sex and nothing more and he doesnt want it to get wierd if one of us brings someone else over.But lately i think weve been getting closer, im really starting to like him.He came into the bathroom today to give me a goodbye kiss while i was in the shower... does he actually like me or is he really just in it for the sex?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 Could you a defensive reaction against being hurt in the future .
However, he may really only be interested in the sex side of things .
Only one way to find out is to put it to him, having said that living in the same house and starting a relationship is never a good idea.
If you are growing attached to him, the best thing to do is find somewhere else to live...if he is really fond of you , he will keep in contact. That way you will know either way.
I wouldnt put too much into this though, it sounds like a great deal he has at the moment, and for that matter, for you as well. But as always in friends with benefits relationships one of the participants starts to develop feelings.
I would get out of the house sooner rather than later, you don't want to come home one Saturday night to see you housemate embracing some girl he's picked up that night do you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): yeah, if he wanted more than sex he would be telling you so.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (2 September 2009):
 If he said it's just sex...then it's just sex, if there was more to it, then just like he said it's just sex, he'll say that it's more to it also.
I really hope you don't settle for this type of thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): If your roommate wants more than just sex, he will let you know in no uncertain terms. He will make sure you know that he doesn't want to lose you to someone else, he won't suggest having other dates over....
If you want something other than just sex, then tell him how you feel about it.
But is sounds all too convenient to me, but who knows, only he does.
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