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writes:I am a 27 year old female and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now. We live together now, and he constantly brings up marriage and children and tells me he has no question in his mind that I'm the one for him. I really believe he's the one for me as well, only I have a few concerns. I understand his love of sports, but it seems like it's his #1 priority almost. The money he puts into fantasy football and how he can't miss a game. We don't have cable at home currently, as we are about to move so he always has to go out to watch it. He invites me, but I don't always want to go out and spend money when I'm in the process of buying a house (even if we go to friend's house we end up picking up food or beer to take). Also, he is a very social person. His dad is an alcoholic and my bf has drank (even if it's just 3 beers) for the last 4 nights. Tonite is a football game so this will prob be night # 5. Should I be concerned or should I just brush these issues off? If not, how do I address them? He is a kind-hearted person with a romantic side. I don't want to lose sight of all of his good qualities because I end up resenting him for the not so good ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): He's got a serious problem, it's not a question of if he has the problem, he has it, and his father has it, and he's young.He should take the quiz...http://www.lanarkleedsaa.org/pages/aboutaa/are_you_an_alcoholic.htmYou might want to take it for him first, then sit him down when he is sober and really talk.You should also go to an AA meeting with him. They can be very eye opening.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Try talking to him honestly about how you feel about these issues. Don't worry about censoring yourself, just be honest. Hopefully you two can talk this out and come to an agreement - maybe he will play free fantasy games instead of paid ones and cut back on the games.
Give it a try.
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