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writes:Hi all, what does it mean when a guy says he needs you?is it a sign of co dependancy, or does it mean he loves you or what? !! Thanks - x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all, thanks for your answers. A lot of them are very conflicting, and I am not sure what to think !! I am hoping he needs and loves me, if he says it agin, I will ask him what he means. Right now I am sitting back and just watching and seeing how things pan out., x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): He's saying he needs something from you.Ask him what that is, get specific and tell him next time he needs you to add I need you for a ... ride to the store a hug, 50K in cash.. because I'm desperately lonely. What does he need?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): Just means he wants you in he's life,my boyfriend of 6 years says it all the time lol even on the phone,doesn't mean he's after sex lol Anyway it's cute and adorable I think,he usually likes to say it when am on the phone in town and he wants me to repeat it lol so people hear but I whisper it...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Best prospect is that he wants ("needs") to have sex with you.... All of us guys use that catch-phrase. It usually works (Keeps a woman interested....)
Good luck
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2011):
 You need to ask him...
do you want to be needed?
do you want to be loved?
do you want to be wanted?
is he NEEDY......... maybe he NEEDS you means he LOVES you but he can't say it?
Co-dependency... a person NEEDS the OTHER person to be dependent on them... for example a mentally ill person NEEDS their partner when they are NOT on medication and the co-dependent partner keeps them away from doctors and medication so that they are NEEDED... that's TRUE classic unhealthy co-dependency...
Sadly we are not mind readers...to know what HE means you need to ASK HIM.
sorry there is no easy way to answer the question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Chigirl for taking the time to answer. :o)
He is in a bit of a bad situtaion at the moment, and has to leave his house in a few weeks, and I have been dating him for 8 months, and that is the first time he has ever said that.. so I am not sure of his meaning. he seems in a preety bad way at the moment. x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Depends on the circumstances, but usually they say a man doesn't marry you, or is serious about spending his life with you, until he "needs" you. So if he says he needs you then that is the ultimate male sign of commitment. It means more than "will you marry me".
Of course, he could be aware of this significance and saying it just to win you over or manipulate you, or maybe he is codependent or unaware of how to live on his own, insecure etc. It all depends on circumstances. But if you have no reason to believe anything else, then him saying he needs you means just that: he needs you in his life and can't imagine being without you.
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