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writes:I'm a bi guy and I like this other guy who says he is straight, but I think he is a little bi-curious. The reason for me saying that is when we used to text each other he would always request gay porn pics to help him masturbate. We even have shared nude pics of each other, which I was very happy about. However, he still insists he is straight, although we do this kind of stuff. He even one time hinted he wanted a blowjob, but after that he never hinted again. We rarely text each other anymore and I miss talking to him. I'm sorta obsessed with him. Everytime I see a photo of him, I just think of all the stuff I wanna do to him.So basically my question is, is he straight or bi? And how can I be less obsessive over him?
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reader, lovemeso64  +, writes (27 April 2013):
to be honest this sounds exactly 16 year old me flirting with and old friend i would say he could be possibly
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 April 2013):
 He may be straight he may be bi he may be bi-curious. Sexuality is really fluid for folks.
I consider myself bi but have not had contact with a woman in nearly 3 years.
I think WiseOwlE is a very smart guy but I disagree that straight men don't masturbate to gay porn. Sometimes what turns us on mentally does not when presented with the actuality of it.
either way clearly he's no longer interested in pursuing anything sexual or close with you so yes it will be in your best interest to get over him.
the best thing to do sadly is go no contact... no calls, no pics no emails no texts..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2013): Straight men don't masturbate to gay male porn. So that eliminates the possibility of your friend being totally heterosexual.He has exchanged nude pics with you, again upping the odds against him being totally hetero. However; you have already satisfied his bi-curiosity. He maintains heterosexuality because he doesn't wish you to take it upon yourself to out his bi-curiosity; before he has personally come to terms with it. He is thinking with his bigger head.As for your personal interests in him. He may feel he has already gone too far. If he was intoxicated at the time he hinted about the bj, his inhibitions were lowered under the influence of alcohol. Just a horny moment. If he was sober, he has had second thoughts, and just isn't ready to go the whole nine yards.Your obsession is mostly an unfulfilled fantasy. He somewhat teased you with an offer he knew would plant a seed. Maybe to be harvested at another time and place. In a case like this, I would allow him to make the first move. It should be totally voluntary, for his sake. You can text to see where his head's at, no pun intended. If he doesn't seem too responsive; wish him well, and leave him alone. He may have already found someone.You need to gain control over your obsessing. Distract yourself anyway possible; because he may also be sensing the fact that if he did go further with you, your feelings could get attached. He isn't ready for all that. He stayed within his comfort level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2013): Sounds like he WAS bi-curious and then figured it out on his own time.
You could always just start texting him again, hangout and then come clean that you have a crush on him. If he's open he might act on it, if he's not it doesn't seem like he would be offended by it and might give you some distance for a little bit until you're over him.
If he's not interested, get a new hobby to keep you busy or try going on a date with a new person for a bit.
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