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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:The first day I walked into my math class this year(freshman year high school) this boy came up to me and start talking to me. Not in a flirting way just in a friend way. A few days later in the library my friend tried to make us go out but I said I don't know him well enough yet. Over these past few months we've became really good friends. I had a friend ask him if he liked me as more than a friend and he said yea but he wasn't ready to go out with me. So I waited a few months and continued to grow closer to him. Today I finally had the courage to tell him I liked him and asked him if he wanted to be my bf and he once again said he wasn't ready to date me. What does he mean he's not ready to date me and what should I do? I don't want to keep asking him like I'm desperate.
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reader, oktexchic +, writes (7 January 2009):
WHY are you desperate? You might want to explore THAT!
Why can't you accept him as a friend, and be appreciative of that? And are you developing girlfriends as well .. they can speak more of your language than a male friend. You are a very young lady. God designed men to pursue & provide. When you rob the man of that ... by being the pursuer, he cannot have a fulfilling relationship with you.
You might read Your Captivating Heart: Unveil the Beauty, Romance, and Adventure of a Woman's Soul by Stasi Eldredge, and the companion book: Wild at Heart by John Eldredge.
Learn more about yourself & start looking at your thoughts that is leading you to fantasize or become desperate. This is not how God designed you. Enjoy being young ... all these grownup challenges can get in the way of your youth. Seek God instead of boys .. & He'll lead you to some sweet, thoughtful boy who has your best interest at heart.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (7 January 2009):
 I can't give you a reason why he is not ready because I would only be speculating, I guess you need to wait until he is ready. My only guess to you is that he is still quite young and is still a bit shy, since I presume its his first date. Good luck!
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