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writes:I am 19 years old. I just finished my first year in college, and had all intentions on going away for my next three years. But I just found out two days ago that I'm pregnant. This is my second time being pregnant, I terminated the first pregnancy because the guy practically convinced me to. He had good reasons, saying school comes first, but to this day, I regret that abortion and killing my first child. This guy that I'm pregnant by is great, we're not together because I told him we shouldn't be. We got into some altercation and I just didn't want the drama. But he's been trying to get another chance and I just don't know how I feel about that. But as I said, he's great. He's a little older then me, but he's in school and he has a good job. But the other thing is, he just had a kid- his son is only 2 mnths old. So I don't know what to do. He told me he'll be there no matter what but don't they all say that? I promised myself I'll never do another termination but I also promised myself I won't let anything stop me from becoming a veterinarian. What should I do?
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reader, emilia_shayner +, writes (14 November 2010):
just wondering what did you decide to do?
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reader, emilia_shayner +, writes (15 July 2010):
I truly believe that if he can treat his other baby well then he shud do the same for this one. && if not..well uve got family and friends for support like that. If he isnt around then alrite. Sometimes it works out for the better that way. My mother has been out of the picture for about a year and my dad has been parenting me and my sisters and it's soooo much healthier of an environment...my point is that sometimes just one parent is better. this will help ensure ure baby will receive the devotion and upbringings that u want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Emilia..exactly.!! I said the same thing. Like God hasn't put me in this situation a second time just for the hell of it. Babies are blessings & I truly believe there's a reason he put me in this situation. I know its my decision, I just don't wanna decide to keep it & he's not there, or he'll change the way he acts towards me. But I guess if I keep the baby, its not how he treats me, but how he's gunna treat the baby.
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reader, emilia_shayner +, writes (7 July 2010):
i dont think he wants it either...but this is mainly ur choice. do you want to keep it? i think u do. i know as a woman and a young one at that..i cudnt live with myself with giving up a baby. and uve already done it once. there is a reason uve conceived again...now u just need to figure that out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah we spoke a little today & I thought I knew where we were goin with this pregnancy but now he's saying he thinks its too soon to have another kid. @Casey I totally agree. Like dnt lay down wit me & not use protection & expect everything to be all good. He already has a kid so I figured he'd know how they're made. But now I'm even more confused bcuz he's giving me the impression that he doesn't want it. He even told me he'll come wit me to abort it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): if he really loved you he'd understand that the baby is mainly your decision, i can't help but feel he is trying to use abortion as a form of contraception because he just can't be arsed to use protection when he should, but he doesn't care about you enough where sex is involved to respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): hey girl
i just read your words, i'm so sorry for you, coz i know how it feels, you're not alone
try to find out what you want with this boy or another, what you want in your life, it's important that you think of yourself and with which way you would be happy and could live with
please, don't make the mistake to be there for everybody or to do things only for others and while doing this forgetting yourself, later you would be much more disappointed, but then you cant turn back time
try to find out if he is real with you and if he would be really there for you, whenever you need him
he should show you that he is true and always there for you
loves takes time
marilyn 30y
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