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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Help me ! Im beyond confused about him. Does he like me? Does he just wanna hook-up? Or does he just see me as a friend? Soo I have this guy friend.I like our friendship we can talk to each other about anything and we have great chemistry. We use to like each other when we were teenagers but we haven't been in contact with each other for a while. We are back in contact now as adults. I still have feelings for him but I haven't let him know this yet because I'm not sure how he feels about me and we are just friends. Lately hes been giving me signs that he might actually still see me as more than a friend.He actually told me out of the blue in a phone conversation that i was so beautiful. And i just laughed it off then he went on to say i was sexy so i just switched the subject because i wasn't ready to let him know i felt the same way for him.(Im shy).So he has been trying to convince me to meet up with him in person so we can reminisce about the "old times".He says he wants me to "make time for him in my schedule" he almost begs me to hang out. I really started to believe he might like me because he texts me really late when he knows I'm sleeping and wont respond and says "i want to see you". And asks what I'm doing. I've never flirted with him or gave him an idea The problems I have with him are he texts me interesting things but when i respond he takes forever to text back! And he continues to try and make plans with me but when I finally give in and say "okay ill come hang out with you" he flakes on me! Like today he contacted me and asked if i would come over and i agreed and asked what time, but i got no response I texted him again and asked if he still wanted to hang out and still no response. I know he got those text messages because he got on social networks and created posts but never texted me back! The funny part is that he is the only one who initiates us making plans but he flakes on them and then complains about how bad he wants to see me. This is the second time hes done this to me and i really don't know what to do.A part of me wants to cut him off completely but he says I'm like his best friend, we've been friends since middle school and i don't want my romantic feelings to get in the way of our friendship. But every time I try to just be friends with him it seems like he leads me to believe theres something more and I fall for him again. One minute Im his best friend the next minute Im sexy the next minute hes ignoring me? Any advice on what i should do about this? Because I know he will contact me soon and I dont know how to react?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 May 2013):
 You need to stand up for yourself, this guy is playing mind games and it is simply just not fair on you what so ever. If he contacts you again then you need to be straight up with him and honest. Explain to him that his behaviour is unacceptable to you. Say it was rude of him not to reply to you and if he wants to meet up with you then he should write back and actually go through with it. No doubt he will make up some excuse about not writing back but do not fall for it. Is it possible that he may be seeing someone else? It is likely that he might also just be looking to hook up with you so remember to be sensible at all times and not to let your feelings get in the way. Good luck.
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