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writes: I have just met up with my ex again after five weeks apart. We are gay, I am 33 and he is 21.After a good night chatting, he suggested we meet up for a meal mid-week. This took me by surprise as I was not expecting another meeting.During our night out, his friends texted him asking how things were going.He is the one who finished with me, saying things were not working for him.Anyway, I agreed to meet for a meal and he said he would text me the next day to arrange. As he drove home that night I texted him, thanking him for turning up, saying that I was really glad he came. He replied saying he enjoyed the night and agreed to text me the following day to arrange - but he did not.It is now two days to go before this meal and I don’t know what to do. Towards the end of our relationship he had a habit of not getting in touch when he said he would. The thing is he seemed really, really sincere the other night when we met and I am a little disappointed that he has not been in touch. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): First of all, you seem like a really nice person. This leads me on to point 2! YOU DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER THAN THIS.Almost everyone has had an ex that they would like to get back with. Often, they may have hurt us. I have found that the main reasons for having a hang-up about this are:1. That we feel we should have done soemthing differently/ that the DUMPED rather than the dumpee did something wrong.2. We don't have a proper explanation for the breakup- so the wondering about why it happened haunts us. We remember again and again the relationship that we lost.3. That you really feel that you had something special with this person, and that you just need to amke them eralsie this.However, the one thing that we do not consider is that the DUMPEE is actually SIMPLY SELFISH. He is not keeping in contact, like he said- SELFISH. He did not give you a proper explanation for the beraup - SELFISH. He simply does not consider your feelings- SELFISH.So to sum it up: he does not deserve you. You deserve someone who thinks about you rather than themself. Trust me, when you move on to your next relationship, you'll realise this.. and you'll wonder why you ever wasted time on him. :-D
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