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writes: I'm 16. I've wrote before about the guy I like and how we flirt and such but its been like 6 months and still we aren't going out and he has issues about getting close from getting cheated on in the past. Well we finally made plans for him to come over after school, but he never told me for sure that he could, so I didn't know for sure so at the end of the day my girlfriend got on the bus to come over and all of a sudden he did too. (Yea I know, idiot on my part for just not going alone) I didn't want to say anything about it and make it worse so they both just came over, but i don't know if he was annoyed or what. Anyway after a couple hours my mom gave my friend a ride home and then he kind started hugging me and kissed me on the cheek. I was thinking he was finally making progress towards me and then my dad came and totally embarrassed me and probably him saying "so are you going to ask her out or what, your all she talks about." my guy just smiled and I just laughed and then after my dad left neither one of us said anything about it. He stayed for about an hour more and he was hugging me but he didn't try to kiss me or anything more, and he didn't ask me out either. Then he had to leave and he didn't do anything like kiss me, but he smiled and said see you at school tomorrow. So my question, did all the screw ups (bringing my friend, my dad) ruin my chances? Do you think he likes me and what should my next move be?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (8 March 2006):
Of course he still likes you. He kept hugging you and kissed you on the cheek and smiled at you and talked abut seeing you again- represents that he enjoyed himself and wants to see you again- they are all huge indicators that this guy lieks you. I don't think your friend coming over or your dad making a embarrasing comment could truly put a guy off asking a girl out if he INTENDED to in the first place and liked her. I think the real issue we should be talking about here is his commitment fears. Don't you think that is why he still hasnt asked you out? You mentioned it in the first part of the letter and then started to somehow think he just didnt like you anymore and thats why he hasnt asked you out. I think its still him fearing getting hurt. And maybe he is also to shy t osay 'will you go out with me'. Do the work for him, its the 2000's now, a girl can ask a guy out. Just say "i really like you and would really like to be our girlfriend. what do you think?" that way he can say a simple yes or no. Also if your prepared to wait around till he finds some way to deal with his fears of being cheated on, maybe u could also suggested that you are prepared to wait- that way he wont feel so pressured.
just go for it!!! you have nothing to loose. you can only gain a answer that you need and whether it be yes or no, if it is no atleast you wont spend so much time wondering.
good luck!
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