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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:About a month and a half ago, by boyfriend of almost 4 years broke up with me. Long story short, our relationship started off with us seeing eachother only once a week, for about 4 hours, each time because of my job. I left my job and moved in with him because I had no where else to go so that I could pursue my dream to go back to school and to also be with him. During the whole relationship he was the financial provider which I understand it can be a burden. It took me a long time to even attempt to find a job after I left the previous job because of some personal issues which I am not using at as an excuse, but that's what happend. I finally went to school, had a part time job,took care of everthing (his clothes, the house, all the dishes(he cooked), the car, dog etc.) mind you when he wanted to take a career change I was the only one that believed in him and gave him the support he needed other than his mom. When he started to make a good paycheck, all his friends and family started asking for money, which basically left him broke. In the meantime, I was looking for other jobs to help supplement the income. I started to notice that he was becoming distant and was upset all the time, not knowing if it was me or he was stessed out because of the situation. He's in his 30's and feels he hasn't reached his ultimate goal so he felt that breaking up with me would help him be more focused toward reaching that goal. He claims he wants to just focus on his career. When we talked, he wants us to be friends for now with the line of us not dating anyone in the meantime because when our careers are set that we would work on our relationship again. The question is, is he just using me because he knows that I still love him and I'm going to be there? What should I do? He calls me all the time like nothing had happened. And, when I moved out a day after the break up he was the one that had a hard time letting me go. He was in tears holding me, I had to break free from the hug to leave. What a girl do to? Should I wait or is he so confused on what he wants? Or, is he just playing with me like a toy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): Kinda tricky...
When he said this did you look in his eyes im a guy you can always tell if a guy is serious by his eyes did he act like he was serious or was it kinda cheesey?
Did he look you in the eyes when he said it?
He was most likely being truthful he sounds like a good guy so you should wait. But if it takes longer than you think it should have than he was lying.
Hope this helps you!
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