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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and we have lived together during the entire relationship.for the past 6 months he has accused me of cheating,left me for days at a time then had me come and get him,ive gotten him out of jail,stopped talking to my friends,quit going out,and basically dedicate all my time energy and soul to him,ive never cheated yet he still insists that i have,what is this about?how do i stop being accused for something ive never done? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 July 2008):
 Time to read this excellent article by Ask oldersister.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html
You can't convince him. Why did you two move in so quickly? You never really had a chance to get to know him, and now I think that maybe you should think about his controlling behavior. Because that is what he's doing to you. He's trying to keep you off balance because he likes to keep you guessing and with no power in the relationship.
Time to reconsider the entire arrangement.
Sorry for being so negative about him, but from the little you wrote, he doesn't sound like a good guy.
Take care.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 why would you give up your life to please a man who doesnt trust you? you have lost your friends and your social life and wat have you got in return? a bum who you have to bust out of jail? not a fair trade if you ask me. this guy sounds like a selfish, immature mess and if i were you i would leave him. get your life back and start enjoying it again - who needs this waste of space guy who wont even give you the time of day?
leave him hun. he doesnt deserve you and he's not worth it. stop wasting you energy and soul on someone who doesnt even want it. go find someone who will trust and love you as you deserve to be loved. please. this guy is no good so stop kidding yourself.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (22 July 2008):
 I think I'd like to give you an answer to something other than what you've asked. From just this little bit, to me it seems like you need to escape not reconcile. You've been bailing him out of jail? What the hell for? ...wait, never mind -- none of my business... but I will say this -- I think you need to find somebody that trusts you and doesn't keep you around for his convenience... don't you think? If you're at 7 months in this relationship and he's accusing you of things that are unsubstantiated, then please do yourself a favor and get out of this relationship before the next worst stage happens -- physical abuse!
Best wishes!!
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