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writes:So... im 17 years old going on 18 and me and my boyfriend who is 17 have been together for about 2months and a week. I feel as if he does not feel the same way as he used to about me. I got text messaging taken away on my fone, which is how we used to talk all day. So now we can only talk on the computer periodically or on the fone at night. He used to call me all the time, and tell me how much he liked me and i even think he was going to tell me he loved me, but the he said he didnt want to get to serious or sumthin cuz he doesnt want both of us to get hurt because im going to college in August.He says he still cares about me, but he doesnt act like it. I like him alot and i think he takes that for granted. What should i do?. Should i break it off, or is it a phase we are going through? Plz help Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): I just posted my own question similar, but I think I can help with yours. You guys havn't been together very long, so it sounds like you got a little attached. Think about what you want. Is he what you want? Actually write down a list if you need to. Think about the pros and cons of the relationship. Then think about if it would be worth your time and energy.But it sounds like he didn't want to get seriouse in the first place, or he's been there and it didn't go well. In my opinion, stay friends and see were fate takes you?
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reader, JulietteElise +, writes (4 February 2007):
 I think is he worried that a long distance relationship wouldn't work (you being at college), and is thus trying to distance himself a bit. However, i know first hand that long distince relationships can work, but both people need to truly love each other and be commited to it as well as wanting it to work. You did not say how far away you would be going, or if he was going far away to a diffrent college as well. However, do you think its worth it? If you do, talk to him about this, and discuss the idea of long distance relationships, and so forth. Only together can you both decide. And though this might sound a bit mean, don't forget that your're about to start a whole new phase in your life, and will meet many, many people... so it's not like this is your last chance for love. from what you said though, it seems he was very head over heels for you, so tell him how you feel!
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