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writes:okay so i like this guy to make this simple ill use the names, me, james and kate, well basicly ive been friends with kate for like 11 years, close friends, and a few month back we was out one night and met this guy, james, i was like omg look how fit he is, but she was like naah hes ugly! lol. anyway we ended up talking and we got his number, he went, she said he was ugly, not her type, but i still said he was really good lookin, which to this day i stick by haha! anyway, about a week after meetin him, she ended up going out with him, just because i liked him.. they went out for like 8 weeks then split up, but hes been textin me recently and we've me up a couple of times! which she found out about and fell out with me massivly! even though she has a new boyfriend. he says he only went out with her because it ment he could see me, and he likes me... and stuff. he'd booked us a hotel on saturday night but i feel akward when im with him because hes been with her! i know they didnt sleep together or anything, although she said they did, he said they didnt which i belive.. for many reasons. im just confused and dont know weather to go with him on saturday! do i spend the night in a hotel with him? do you think he really did only go out with her so he could see me? my heads messseddd with this confusinng situation! do you think i should go for it? i really dont know what to doo! please help? thanks!!! x
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reader, kahlan +, writes (4 September 2009):
 This is a close friend of 11 years your talking about.What kind of guy goes out with someones friend to get close to another girl.If it was my friend i wouldnt go near him cos guys come and go but friends are meant to be there to stay.However,it was out of order of your friend to say she wasnt interested,then go out with him knowing you were interested.Is there a bit of rivalry between the two of you?Youve known the lassie 11 years,and meant to been close,would she lie about sleeping with him.Ask yourself this seriously,dont tell yourself what you want to hear.
Have you two totally fallen out over this?If so that would be a shame,If you can talk to her,tell her you really like him and always have.Ask her why she said she didnt like him,then go out with him,when she knew you did like him.Friends arent meant to do that to each other either.Say you really want to see him and she is seeing this new guy anyway.
Ultimatly its up to you,Whos more important to you?But try and talk things through with her,
Love Kahlan.X.
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