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writes:My boyfriend said he doesnt want to see me 24-7.He says he needs space once in a while.Have I done something wrong?is this a bad sign?
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 IMO? You probably haven't done anything. It's completely natural for guys to need that "lone wolf" time. We're kind of self-contained types... some more so than others. Plus, sometimes that feeling of being boxed in by a relationship is a little tough to comprehend. I would suggest that you back off a little and give him some room to be himself. I think granting the space is good... I think another way of expressing it is that guys need to maintain their individuality and the way to get that is to feel like you're not being crowded.
So give him some room to be for awhile. Don't plaster him with emails or texts. Tell him you care and respect that he's himself and needs to be himself. Yeah, it's a hard thing to kind of deal with, but all guys feel like this to some degree. It's not you -- it's DNA.
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reader, texpsych +, writes (7 May 2008):
It's not necessarily a bad sign. Some people require more "me" time than others. I know I need a lot of me time even if I'm madly in love with someone.
The only way you could do something "wrong" now is by clinging. It'll make him push you away. I know it might be difficult, but try giving him some space and see how he reacts. Better yet, give yourself some space, go out with your girl friends and have some fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Im pretty sure that unless they mean that they don't want to see you often it just means that they feel overwhelmed by the relationship. I found out that when I spent all my time with my darling i might not take as much care of myself because I just wouldnt have the necessary alone time. I think it would only be a problem if you were in a living toghether relationship, but even then you'd go to work, see friends, etc, right?
The word is, don't worry about it, unless you start panicking about that everythig will be fine. If you take it cool and show him you can enjoy time alone I can assure you your relationship will come out even stronger in the end.
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reader, binhquangdao +, writes (7 May 2008):
 as a guy we truly need some time for ourselfs and our boys if you smoother him with all your love and affection and don't give him time to miss you in due time he will get angry and frustated... :) just give him his space but tell him you will be there when you need your life should not revolve around one person yet you have to have time for friends, family and significant others.
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