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writes:My boyfriend has recently decided that we both need space together. He says we rushed into a lot of things. We are both 18 and have been together for a year and almost two months. We've been best friends for about four years.After a while, we started spending time with each other 24/7. During the summer he moved into my house after an argument with his mom. He recently moved back but we were still seeing each other all of the time (besides when we work). We stopped spending much time with friends and family like we used to. Then about three or so days ago he suggested that we don't spend every night together anymore and that we should see each other every second of everyday. He said some nights we can spend the night together, and we can call/text each other, and hang out with each other normally. But he also wants time for us to be alone without each other.At first I was confused and thought that it was over, but when we spoke about it he told me that he loves me more than anything and if he didn't care then he would've simply ended it. He wants us to get better because we have been having huge arguments all of the time and he doesn't like that. He said that someday we will live with each other again, but not until we are fully ready. He says we are still "always and forever" and he will never stop loving me.But what does this all mean? Is he really serious about us being together forever, and just wants us to make time for ourselves without the other or is he trying to let me down slowly because he doesn't know how else to end it? Please help. I am so hurt and confused but if he still sees a future for us I am willing to do this with him. I agree that space between each other is good but I'm just worried I will lose him.
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reader, Shan25 +, writes (5 December 2009):
Either he wants time to spend with someone else or he does feel trap and needs time to himself
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reader, brovers  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 sometimes guys like to have space to spend time with friends, it sounds like he loves you , but if he does keep putting to the back i think it would be best to end it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, I meant *shouldn't* see each other every second of every day.
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