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writes:My partner and i had a happy relationship until recently. i always knew he had a child from when he was 15 and had debts as a result. i accepted that with no problem after all we all have a history. i also knew he hated his job and wanted to leave it. so i helped him get a new job in my company but only part time hours as something tempory. a year on and he hasnt found a new job im paying for both of us to live at my parents as well as when we go out. i've asked him to get a new job and he comes up with excuses and throws the fact he messed his life up and just wants to have fun. Am i being used????
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reader, Sundelin2 +, writes (5 July 2008):
 Well, the thing is on this one, i think he's trying to pull the guilt trip on this because of the history he has when it comes to having a child at 15. Also, since you're the one paying for everything when comes to living and socalising, it must make you feel sick at times.Well there are two ways of you doing this,which most likely you have done before, tell him how you feel about it. if he goes on about this again, then you know you're just being used.Then my friend, time to live life to the full, until you find a guy that is a non - user. after all we have one life only, so live it how you want it: and probably everyone would want to live it in a fun manner.take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Vow, are you being USED? Okay, this might sound harsh; but vow; you don't owe him a living; come on girl; he should be supporting you ...if anything!
Get this loser out of your life; find somebody that will value and appreciate you; this guy is USING you; FACT;In fact; he is using and Abusing you;
You deserve better; in my mind there is no doubt that if you have to make him "pay" his way; he will be gone!
Stop supporting him; stop giving him all the benefits; did you honestly think he was going to just leave?
NO NO, you wil have to get rid of him; THEN move on; find somebody to appreciate you for you the person; to love you and cherish you;
Oh come on girl; you deserve the best; get this guy out of your life; his is wasting valuable time; time you could spend with somebody who reaally cares for you;
Yeah, okay, you think you "LOVE" him; vow...go and take stock, about LOVE;
Be strong; get rid of this "user" and start enjoying life; you will find somebody to value, respect and love you for who you are; not for supporting and keeping them;
Good luck!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (4 July 2008):
 you are being taken for a tour de france my friend. he is mooching of your parents indirectly through you and has no motivation to change when you support his laziness. i'm imagining that your parents are charging you afordable rent which is why you have been able to support another and if this is the case you are a real deal meal ticket!
think about it is this this going anywhere? has he displayed over time traits in himself that you feel would be good and you enjoy and gain from or are his traits only good for himself? examine his behaviour patterns over this long time period and you already have your answer...
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