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writes:I met my boyfriend January this year, he told me that he does not have a girlfriend, and i did not believe him because all man say that. Later my friend told me that he has girlfriend, a long time one, that did not bother me much... until he told me he wants us to start a family, like kids but not to marry me, he only wants a kid.Within the same month he wanted me to move in with him but i refused, on the following month i moved to another city, and the calls dropped, i only got emails and sms once in a while. Sometimes he comes to see me and i go to him, i love him so much and funny enough when he tells me that he loves me, i believe him but the moment he is gone i ask myself lots of questions, does he really love me or not? i feel like i have known him forever and i can tell him things that i have never told anyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, sexi +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Hi
Why did you move away? It is clear that you dont trust this guy and by moving away (with the distance) this is just going to put more doubt in your mind. Do you really love this guy? Why dont you ask him for some sort of commitment to see if he is serious about you. Your situation is really difficult. Why dont you sit him down and ask him what is really happening, you deserve to know the truth and communication is the key to a happy relationship. Try speaking to him and see where that gets you!
Regards,mail me if you wanna chat
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 You don't sound too sure about this man, and if he has a long term girlfriend why is he telling you he loves you and wants to have a child with you?
It doesn't look to me that this man is committed to you. You have not been in this relationship for long and I think you should think very carefully before getting pregnant.Do you want to be a single parent? If he's not interested in marrying you have you asked yourself why he would want you to have his child?
Something is not right here and I think you could end up getting hurt,I certainly wouldn't consider having this man's child until he shows you that he is not in another relationship, is committed to you and you can trust him not to leave you holding the baby ALONE !
Good luck.
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reader, Mr Tips +, writes (16 May 2008):
Just one other thing I forgot to tell you, "not all men are like that" some are but then again so are some woman.
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reader, Mr Tips +, writes (16 May 2008):
If you have doubts then wait, If he loves you put him to the test, don't have sex with him for a while see if he still comes back to you, and definitely do not have a child with him. Tell him you want to wait a few years before having children, If he loves you he will still be with you if not he's gone, then you will have the answer to your question.
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