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writes:My boyfriend and I of 1 1/2 years had another conversation last night about marriage and children. He basically told me that he doesn't want to be alone but he's scared of commitment and he basically feels like he can't ever give me what I want and that's a family one day. He told me that he loves me and that he doesn't want to lose me. He told me also to give him a week to think about everything. I love this person so much and I can't picture my life ever without him. Part of me feels like he's not worth losing over this and if a family is meant to be, it will happen. But, another part of me feels like I just don't know what to do. Can this relationship be saved and is there any possibilty that he could change his mind one day? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): get over it, move one with someone with the same goals and dreams. your putting ur life on hold for someone that doesnt share what you want. beleive me, your going to wakwe up one day and regret wasting time... move one, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and you will catch the one of your dreams. remember there is always someone out there for yo
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reader, Handycam  +, writes (18 April 2007):
He could be scared of committment or it could be that he just doesn't want the whole marraige and family thing with anyone. Not everyone wants that. I live with my boyfriend but I don't want to get married and have kids. It doesn't mean I'm not committed to him or don't love him because I am and I do, it's just not what I want from life. I don't want to get married or have a family with anyone, but it doesn't mean I have committment problems. I think you need to find out what he wants from this relationship and from the future. If it's not the answer you want then you need to decide what's more important to you, marraige and a family or your boyfriend. Unfortunately, there's no middle ground on this one.
Good luck
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reader, trueheartconfused +, writes (18 April 2007):
He maybe is scared of commitment , maybe he is
just scared of committing to you , because he does not think
you are the one.
when we love a person ,
we almost always imagine one day we will marry this person,
have family and kids with this person, he has already told
you he can not give you that , I am sorry to say , but I
don't think he loves you ,he cares about you that's for sure
especially if you are still sleeping with him, but his
action doesn't say love.
If your goal is to get married and have kids one day which
we all do , he won't be the one for you , but I applaud his
honesty, he could have string you along and lie to you but
he didn't , because he truly did not want to hurt you .
Listen carfully what he just told you last night , if he
can not make decision after a week , you need to be the
stronger one to make the decision for both of you .
There are plenty fish in the sea, you will find the right
person someday who is willing to give you a family and
children , who will ask you to marry him in a heart beat.
The sooner you start looking , the sooner you will find
the love your life.
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reader, maria14r +, writes (17 April 2007):
you know my boyfriend told me that he was never going to get married either when we were 1 year together. its been 2 years since he said that and now he wants to marry me and we already have a baby so anything is possible. he could change his mind later on. if you see that a long time has passed by and he still hasnt changed his mind then you should make some changes because no man should keep you from your dreams
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): Well if he doesn't want 2 commit then u could always think that u could adopt an older child?But still ur right he isn't worth losing over this!Would u really want 2 pressurise him in 2 sex and then make him really upset and distressed?Surely u would only have sex comfortably if u both wanted it?
I hope this helps!x
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