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writes:I met a guy online and we decided to meet in person, went out on a couple of dates and I thought we hit it off, he asked me out on other dates and then all of a sudden he tells me he just wants to be my friend. But, we went out on other dates and we even kissed one time very passionately and he told me that he didn't want to ruin the friendship. He always calls me to let me know when he has an issue with a girl he might be seeing or whatever problems he has in his life weather is buying a car or whatever is happening he always shares it with me. We are friends and he is a nice guy but he just wants to be my friend, Do you think i have a chance maybe or is it always going to be friendship? I am in love with him! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was talking to my friend on the phone yesterday and instead of saying (you now what boy) I said (you know what Boo) He started giggling and and said did you just call me boo? And i told him yeah but i meant to say boy... He told me laughing yeah don't call me boo, because I am not ready to take this relationship to the next level.
Do you think he has considered maybe taking it to the next level but is not ready? or am i just reading to much into it?
All your thoughts have been very helpful...Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): okay, thanks for the update; maybe suggest that he introduce you to some friends or help you find a boyfriend; he might ask what he must be like etc; then suggest to him; "oh somebody like yourself;
other then that; just stay friends and see what happens;
go out with other guys, don't just wait for him; if he gets upset or jealous well then he needs to make a move; if that does not rattle his cage; accept that he is just not "into" you and remain his friend;
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Ladies.... I forgot to mention that he has told me i am everything he ever wanted in a girl and that i am very pretty,that i have the qualities in a girl he is looking for but he wants to be friends. Also, when I mentioned that I went out on a date with a guy or that i am talking to a guy he right away ask me, does he look better then me is he taller, muscular etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): I suggest you stay friends with this guy; on one of your dates; in a diplomatic way,send the conversation to "partners" and ask him; what is looking for in a partner; suggest that maybe you can introduce him to some of your friends, but he must tell you what is important to him; that way you might get him to talk; that might give you an insight;or some ideas;
Don't despair:
I know of many happily married couple who were just good friends in the begining and only later developed a more serious relationship;
Oh, and keep smiling;
Goodluck and best wishes.
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