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writes:Hey,I really don't know what to do anymore.. I've liked this guy for over a year and hes likes me too. We were seeing each other a lot last summer nearly every day, was amazing. Only problem is hes got a gf... he was with her all last summer too. Sadly he moved away to bristol with her but now hes come back and we met up straight away. We still like each other loads and we carried on from before he left its like we've always been together.. Thing is i just dont know where i stand.. as i know he cares for his gf but he said hes seriously falling for me and wishes he met me b4 he was with his gf. Hes told me time and time again hes seriously not using me but i cant carry on with this much longer when hes still with his gf :( I like him so much to give up on him as if we were really together we could have something truely special. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Thanks everyone :) I told him that im not gonna be 2nd best and that i dont want to be used. The last few days things have changed, im the one who has to make all the effort..He text me saying he wants to meet up and to sort things out, i asked him when and i never got any reply :( So i'm not gonna bother with him till he treats me properly even if it is just as a friend x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): I can totally relate, I have been involved with someone with a girlfriend for a couple of months. I started to really fall for him. It started to become way too painful always comparing myself to her, hearing about them etc., so I just told him that I can't talk as long as he is still with his girlfriend. It's really hard though I totally miss him and think about him all the time. Sometimes I want to just call him and say we should still be friends but I just don't want my heartbroken anymore. I know that if he was with me he would end up cheating too. He's really good at hiding it and lying...I know from experience! That would really suck. Stay strong, I'm right there with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): the best thing you could do is to be honest with him about your feelings for him. if he loves you the same he will breakup with his girlfriend. sadly enough, if he doesnt love you, then he wont. and he'll just string you along because he can. because you let him.
but dont be the "other woman". you deserve better than just bits and pieces of a relationship. you deserve a real one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): You have to speak to him clearly & tell him exactly how u feel. You know that this can't lead anything more than a disaster.
Lets say for instance if he leaves his gf for you. Don't you think in the long run he will leave you for another girl.
Starting a relationship like this will more than likely lead into broken hearts on both ends.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (8 May 2008):
 well hun i think he has to make up his mind..right now whatever he is saying doesnt matter that girl is still his girfriend and not u..he has to make a decision i think u shouldnt see a guy who has a girlfriend olready..put yourself in his girlfriends place and think how would u feel if your boyfriend was seeing another girl..ask him not to make it worse..if he wants her then fine u..u can find someone else who likes u as his GIRLFRIEND ans not some other girl in his life..
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reader, natasia +, writes (7 May 2008):
 It's really simple. Tell him how you feel, and that you want to be with him. The only thing is, he has to finish with his girlfriend first, and then he can be with you. Better he chooses now than gets more involved with you and ends up hurting both of you. Don't entertain being one of two women in his life - it will be incredibly painful for you at some point. I know. It's happened to me and it is the worst pain I've ever felt. : (
I have a 5-week old baby daughter with the guy, and this evening I found he'd put up a picture of 'the other woman' on his wall. When I was upset, he told me I was over sensitive. Yeah. You want to avoid that kind of thing. Trust me.
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