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*armicIllusions
writes:I'm really upset, my boyfriend of almost 9 months just randomly broke up with me. It started with 2 days of no talking after a stupid argument in which he pretty much assumes I told him he couldn't go to the movies with his friends when I never said that, I simply asked who was going to the movies with him. He had a cow and stopped talking to me for 2 days. During those 2 days he deleted my facebook comments and ignored my calls. When he called back he started telling me how he didn't love me anymore, that he loves me now as a friend... I'm deeply hurt cause he wouldn't even try to fix it. He just got up and left me crying and begging. I don't know what to do. Its been affecting me emotionally to the point Ive stopped talking, I just write in a notebook and cry. Not to mention I barely want to eat. I seem to remember everything about him constantly but he treats me so cold, cold to the point he said he doesn't want to be my friend. I mean one days he says he loves me and the other day he takes it back and says he doesn't, that he only cares as a friend. How can this be? When he himself told me he was gonna give me a promise ring cause he said I was the one for him. Whats going on?! Please some one tell me
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 He is behaving like a small kid. There is not much you can do about that.He has to grow up.
If you still like him , you will need to stop contact with him and wait until he comes crawling back to you .
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reader, DiamondGirlx  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 I hate to be the one to tell you this hun but you've most probably heard it before and will hear it again later on in life, the truth is nothing can really prepare you for the pain of a heartbreak and eventhough this guy meant the world to you, you will! eventually get over him, it will take alot of time and alot more cries before you do but please dont make your health sick over it because thats really not going to help the matter is it? and as for this guy it seems like he did over react abit maybe it had been something that had been in his mind for a while and that was and excuse.
what i will tell you though hun is if he has definately said that he doesnt want a relationship with you at all anymore then do not plead with him to get back together because it will only crush your heart more which obviously needs a good mending, so heres the idea! get the chocolates out, the girls round find your best soppy chick flicks and have a good cry out then realise you have to start over. take care xx
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reader, alexia846  +, writes (13 May 2010):
honestly i was with a guys that played with my emotions like that for five years and he ended the relationship, if you wanna suffer like i am then stay ...but just leave before you get too deeper :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): Honey, if the guy had a toddler tantrum because you asked an innocent question do you really want to be with him? Deleting all your fb comments and ignoring you? What a BABY! His actions have shown that's the kind of man he is; and if you look deep down you'll know that you deserve someone who is going to treat you with more respect than that.
And even now through his actions he's trying to hurt you. Well don't let him - next time he tries to say he cares for you as a friend, tell him you have enough friends thank you very much and that your friends don't play silly mind games to try and hurt you so you won't be needing his friendship.
I'm not saying it'll be easy. But you'll get back that self respect that's he seems to be stealing away from you. Hold your head high and soon enough he'll be the one begging you - but that respect will keep you walking on towards someone else who won't mess you around.
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