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writes: i recently fell in love for the first time with my boyfriend.who in my eyes is the most perfect person ive ever found.but then he finished me a few weeks ago.and i am heartbroken,he wont talk to me face to face even to get his stuff.he still has my initials and 3 in his msn name and his online profiles all still say in a relationship.he says he dusnt love me anymore but it dosnt seem that way.please help me,what should i do?im so confused and hurt.
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reader, a gril at heart  +, writes (6 February 2009):
Well, if your confused, then he is more confused. If you keep trying to contact him, it will certainly drive him away further. Contact him only once in a while and keep the conversation simple and upbeat. Remember, it is not always about your looks, money, etc., it it more how you make a man feel. If he thinks you are needy, bitchy, etc., instant turn off. If you give him simple, sincere complements (one or two per conversation) he will feel good when he talks to you and will want to be around you. And most important, give him his space to figure it out on his own. It will be difficult because we females are so about love and bonding, but it may pay off. About His online profile, most guys don't take care of those things, so don't put anything at all into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): well im goin throw the same thing...me and my babi been together for 5mths i did things with him i never did in my life and until he started letting haterz get to his head....he let people tell him things that wasnt true so i had to tell him and let him know that i didnt do nothing and he thinks im lyeing but im not i care for him deeply and i rspect that and so sinc he wants to listen to people ima let him listen because at the end of the day hes going to know that i was being real te whole time and it hurts he said he didnt love me no more...and when he promise he wouldnt break my heart and he did thats what kills me we just have to have patient and wait till the time comes and goes then there going to miss you thats what im trying to do but it hurts so bad and i try to stay strong and just wait till that day comes!!!destany babi i love you!!! jakie
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reader, heartbrokenxx +, writes (27 March 2008):
 i am goin thru the exact same thing as u are, my boyfriend and i were together for 3 years on n off, den randomly we had a huge fight and he said to me by the end of it that mayb he doesnt love me anymore and that he doesnt kno how it happened n that i will hold a place in his heart always but. yehh we broke up
and im so lost i want him bak but deres nothin i can do to win him bak except wait n see if he EVER changes his mind, he makes it out to other ppl like he still loves me so i dunno wat is goin on.
i suggest we jus wait and see, even wen ur are tempted to ask him or talk to him or see him, don't! it only makes him miss u less.. coz he knows ur gona be there.. my ex is gettin kicked outta home soon and he will prob see dat i was a good gf and was gona move out wid him and help him. n mayb realize dat he needs me in his life to help him.
who knows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Why you think it is not true, you mean he must have reason to have said that? If I were you I will try to talk to him openly, why he not love me anymore? did I make some mistakes that he could not forgive me or give me a chance to change myself. But if he really finished love you. Just accept it and find the other one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): Yes, he may not have gotten around to removing his things yet or changing his profile.
If he doesn't want to talk to you face to face, and says he doesn't love you, sorry to say, you'd better believe it and move on.
To: Preppygurl: you say you're going through the same thing and you don't know what's up with a man not knowing what he wants. Sounds as if he DOES know what he wants, and that is.......not to be in a relationship with you right now. Sorry, but what makes either of you doubt what these guys are saying? Better to assume they mean what they say, and let it go - even though it will hurt for a while. Don't put your lives on hold, either of you!
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reader, Lemonpixie +, writes (15 November 2006):
 Well firstly you might have to face the fact that he may have not gotten around to deleting those things, I remember after a break up a few years back i completely forgot about this one accounnt i had and my ex thought i was keeping it up b/c i still liked him which wasnt the case. But thats not always a possibility... he also may still harbour feelings for you and that is his way of showing it. The fact that he doesnt want to see you face to face can mean a number of things but he may be afraid of falling back in love with you, which may not be what he wants right now. I suggest giving him his space... This answer may not be what you want to hear but he didn't break up with you over nothing... something is going on, what it is you may never know but you'd do best to try and move on... if he makes contact with you then try and feel it out, but for now just leave it alone
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reader, Preppygurl +, writes (15 November 2006):
im going tho the same exact thing as you are. i dont know whats up with man not facing what they want.
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