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*hridinemonkey
writes:This is going to be kind of long, but I'll try to keep it as short as possible:I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. I just moved away to finish school (only 3 hours away from him). He told me from the beginning that he has tried long distance relationships before and just can't handle them but told me he would try. I have only been gone a month and he recently told me we should break up until I move back home. I have 2 years of school left. He said he would be waiting for me when I get done with school, but I'm confused because he told me that he can't be away from me. He said he needs me physically there to have a relationship. So the break up is supposedly temporary.I've asked him if he is just saying that because he wants to see other people, but he said no. He doesn't want anybody but me. I asked him if he would see other people or sleep with other people while I am gone, and he said that he's not planning on it. So I am really confused as to where we are at in our relationship. He keeps telling me to come back and move in with him. Does he really want that?He is so important to me and I can't imagine the rest of my life without him. I just want to be not confused anymore.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 September 2011):
 LDRs are hard... even when you have time and money and can see each other often...
I think that being friends but not romantic partners over the next two years might be the way to go...
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 If he really loves you and doesn't want to lose you, he will do all he can in his power to keep your relationship alive, no matter the distance. "love knows no distance".
I think he will be missing the sexual part of your relationship, and by breaking up with you, or going on a break, this allows him to still get the physicality without cheating on you. Doesn't matter if he denies that. Why else would he break up with you?
3 hours is not that far, to be honest. I am in a long distance relationship and we live on different continents, yet we stay strong.
Best of luck.
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reader, FatTony89  +, writes (7 September 2011):
My sis dated a guy who lived far away. Felt the same way. They talked all day and night then one day she snapped and broke up with him.
Not saying that your situation is like hers but with time everything changes and ever wounds heal.
You can live without him. You were born in this world alone, right? So, you will die alone.
Find someone close by..who can truly be there for you unless you guys are willing to move for eachother.
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