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writes:Hey,I don't know what to do about this guy. I once liked him a LOT, but he didn't like me back. Fair play. We have been talking for about 5 months, and in this time I have got to know him [I think] quite well. I care for him and his welfare deeply. I don't like him like how I used to btw.Usually, he acts like a bit of an idiot on MSN but today he was lovely. I was talking about something bad that happened to me, and he was nice, compassionate and actually listened to me without being mean.My problem is: he says he can never be my friend, and this saddens me. He says that there are better guys out there for me, to be a guy mate. Should I just get over the thought of being friends with him, or should I pursue it. Basically, is there any hope?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): Well that's odd. It sounds like he has something mental going on.. I mean like. mental instability. Meaning something like, low self esteem, social anxiety, etc.
If he changed in and out like this and he isn't a consistent person because like you said, he has a few problems, then although i don't know what those problems are, i'm sure you're not the one making him not want to be friends with him. And if it's not your fault, then i'd say there's definitely hope. He's probably used to having people give up and go "whatever" and ignore him. But prehaps if you keep trying, it would show him a level of friendship he's not used to, and could end up being a very lovely one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, he has a few problems. And has never really had any friends. I only met him this [academic] year when we started college. Hes opened up to me. A lot. And we act like we could be friends sometimes. But then he acts weird, and it changes it all. Also, we NEVER talk in real life. We are in the same class, and have plenty of opportunity to speak, yet we just don't.He never even goes out. I invite him out to come to a reivsion sesh, hes not coming. But his personality is wonderful [sometimes] and its is a personality I want to be friends with.
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reader, twistedelm  +, writes (30 May 2009):
I feel there is hope for everyone; even the people who dont like you. Even the people who dont understand you. All need hope as corny as that may sound. Ive been used and abused but I dont go that road anymore. You will find your way if I could find mine. Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): What you really need to know is why would you want to be friends with someone who is clearly not interested in you? There are so many people in this world that are willing to be your friend, what compels you to want to be friends with him? Why demean you value in this way? You are worth so much more.Please move on with your life and do some new things, join a club....whatever it takes to make some new friends :) Good luck you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): Can't tell you whether or not there's hope becaue i don't have any clue why he said this to you. If you give a little more info, maybe i can help.. or maybe others can without more info. Maybe i'm jsut dumb.
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