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writes:Hi,I'm a 20 yr old girl and i've been a relationship with a 26 yr old guy for the past 4 months. Over that period of time, we shared our past. I was shocked when he told me he used to be sexually abused by his step father, his mother used to sell him to her friends, who were all on drugs and now he is tormented in his sleep by his past, which has been going on every night for the last 10 yrs. He went to get help, seen counsellors and been on medication which hasn't worked. He self harms and drinks alot to try and forget. He has also attempted suicide.With it being so close to Christmas, he's become very distant and angry. The reason for that he says is because it brings back memories. We both have issues over sex. He likes to do it but it sometimes brings back his past and i have an insicurity about rejection. We have been arguing alot lately and a few days ago he said he wanted us to part ways due to our insicurities and that i wasn't supportive enough, but i've tried to be. I know he still loves me and i have been trying to get in touch, but he's ignoring me. I would really like for us to work, but i don't know what i can do. do i just stop contacting him and except it's over or do i persist?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): Hi Laura
You sound like a really nice girl but you b/f has soo many issues I don't think you are able to help him
maybe he has been advised to concentrate on himself as he nned to like /love himself b4 he can have any kind if relashonship with anyone else.
Please dont pressure him let him be and if he does contact you just be his friend as it would be a shame for you to be more hurt in this than you already have been
Take care dear
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reader, muffy  +, writes (25 December 2007):
 well,does he know that you have triied to be supportive?let him know that you love him and that you will support him 110%.if he keeps ignoring you,then just let it go.i hoep i helpedlove and kissesfeel free to message me if you ever need anything
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