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writes:hey, hope your fine!I've a huge crush on this guy with me at work, recently we started talkin more often and he asked me out once and it went gr8, he kept tellin me all about his previous relationship, he's very decent and just too good to be true...I dont get to see him a lot at work thou, just from time to time cos we work in different departments...Anyways we started getting close and a couple of days ago, I did something foolish, there's a website that says love calculator and asks u to write 3 names of those you love, and when u do it sends the name via email to the one who sent it to u...well, I sent him this site and he fell for it! Thing is he wrote my name 2nd, the 1st was the name of his ex (who is gettin married and there's no chance to get back with her) and the 3rd name I dont know! anyways we were goin out that day but of course he didnt call, however he was online and he was so pissed off, I kept talking to him till eventually he became normal and I asked bout the 3rd girl he wrote her name and it turned out to be a sister of a friend whom they were getting close but not anymore and I told him u should tell her maybe she loves you too, he said he doesnt love her...however he didnt mention anything but my name!yet he later became extra sweet and kept tryin to get close which was gr8, however, yesterday we talked for a while online, and he kept askin me bout the person I love I told him the 1st 2 letters of his name "MA" and eventually he realized it was himself...then I expected he'd say smthin, but however he kept askin y do I love "MA"and is it love or just a crush, I mean why would he ask all this if he didnt care?!however he didnt say he likes me or anything, I told him that my feelings depend on whether "MA" feels the same or not, (we referred to him as "MA") then he kept sayin weird stuff like he's not that good like I think, and he said that I'm flawless and sweet and that I deserve the best man ever! I mean isnt this similar to the line "it's not u, it's me"?Why would he tell me that?! I then said okay I understand, meaning that ok I understand u dont feel the same, but he kept sayin ur upset dont be upset, we have to talk, u wont understand me right throu the net, and he said I'll c u tomorrow (which is 2day) however till now he didnt call and I already left work...what I dont understand is that it's been sooooo obvious that he likes me and everybody's noticed this, and he knows I like him, so what's he waiting for?! And if he does like me then y would he say smthin like "u deserve the best man ever" and that he's not as good as I think he is!what does he want to talk about?! clearing some points in our future relationship if there'll be any? or tell me stuff about himself?? or just tell me that I got the wrong signals and I'm merely a friend???am so confused!!! And I dont want to push things I've already been honest , way tooo honest actually!! And I hate waiting like this for him to call or to ask to see me to explain things...I mean he's a gr888 guy and I really wish he'd be mine...but what's with him being tooo cold and too slowwwwww...thnx for ur time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Right offhand, it sounds as if he realizes that you are more "invested" in him than he is in you (you said you have a huge crush on him). He may well like you, but just not to the extent that you like him.You want to know if he wants to talk to you about "clearing points in a future relationship, if there will be one." You have been out with him ONCE. MUCH too soon to be thinking about a possible relationship, let alone discussing it!And yes, if he saying he's not as good as you think, and that you are sweet, but deserve the best man ever, the implication is that its not him! Add to that, the fact that he said he would get in touch with you today, and has not called to make arrangements, well.......don't get your hopes up!I'm sorry, but don't sit and wait by the phone, go out and enjoy yourself; if he does call he can always leave a VM. Don't call him yourself. Let HIM chase YOU - if he's going to, that is.And if not? You will eventually meet a man who is going to be crazy about you, and who you will like equally well!
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