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writes:what would u do or think if your bf tells u are clingy annoying and needy....and then when u tell him if u think im all those thing why are u with me.then he tells u he was just mad and that he does love u and that i need to just enjoy being togther what would u thiink of that? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 January 2012):
 Personally I'm not a good person at these types of things and I'd go all "passive aggressive" on the guy... NOT a cool way to handle it but it proves my point.
I would back off so far as to be cool and distant till he actually asked "what's wrong" and I would then tell him "i'm working on not being clingy annoying and needy"
and see what happens from there... but I don't play well with others... and it's not a good idea to play games.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 Sounds like u two have communication issues. He got emotional because he feels that is what is necessary with u in order to effectively convey his message. Sit him down and discuss ur issues without attacking each other.
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reader, JakeChaucer +, writes (11 January 2012):
hes just pissed everyone says mean things, tell him your not gonna put up with it and set limits, sometimes people have a bad day!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 If anyone described me as clingy and needy I would reflect on past conduct and ask myself if there was any truth to it.
If your boyfriend were an abusive and controlling person he would be more likely to call you 'bitch' or 'slut', not clingy and needy. I suspect he has been feeling crowded by you for some time but doesn't know how to tell you without hurting your feelings or starting a fight. I believe he retracted the statement not because of what he said, but how he said it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2012): I'd think it's time to dump my verbally abusive and mentally controlling "boyfriend" for someone who will genuinely love and respect me for being the person who I am.
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