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writes:Hey please help me...Ive recently lost my viginity (on holiday with my bf this week) and he is larger than normal. At first he said i was loose however i explained that i have been very experiemental in my past.however after 3 days of sex he told me today that ive become alot more bigger down there... Im really weird about this now and really conscience. He said he can tell that theres a gap there now and the space there is now alot bigger...Im really conscience by this comment and alil scard... he was my first but i dont want to be loose or bigger down there... what do i do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, starguy  +, writes (24 August 2011):
Well now wait a minute, I can understand where the guy is coming from. When I was young, my first girlfriend was much tighter than my second girlfriend. It may very well be that his experience is very limited at this point, and he has only had sex with a few previous females.My second girlfriend had much bigger hips than my first girlfriend, she was a bigger girl, and she was much more wet with a bigger vagina. It was very hard to keep an erection with her, because it was like sticking your manhood into an... ocean. There was no friction, you had to concentrate. I was 22 then, and now I'm 42, and this same second girlfriend I had back then, is having sex with me now... and its the same... she's like an ocean. I am fairly well endowed, but you just get lost in it. He probably is becoming more aware of it the more you have sex.He may not be meaning anything mean by it, in fact, he may be offering it as some plain speaking reason as to why its hard for him to maintain an erection inside of you. He's not saying there's anything wrong with you, he's just saying... the pars are a bit mismatched... that is all. Once size DOES NOT FIT ALL. People come in all kinds of sizes. A midget would not have satisfying sex with an Amazon... its just not going to happen, its going to be frustrating.My advice to you is to say... yes... I'm a big girl... but you like big girls don't you (and give him an evil sexy grin)... and say... I know how I can get you hard and strong and fill me up, because I like the way you feel inside of me... we can make up some racy erotic fantasies together... There is nothing that gets a guy more excited by keying in to his... imagination... and role playing... and it may just be what you need to overcome his worries that you'll be able to keep him excited long enough to continue to have sex together sucessfully and satisfyingly.
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reader, Moonknight +, writes (24 August 2011):
 Stop worrying your self, it's actually very normal for a guy to feel his gf to be looser after loosing her virginity. that is because you are looser after loosing your virginity, and it takes a few days for your vagina to adapt to the changes, for a man the feeling is HUGE, but only for a few days, then everything goes back to normal, your boyfriend is inexperience.
So please stop worrying, this is all very normal, when you are turned on you will feel alot looser, but truly until a few weeks/months of sex your vagina will feel different everytime he enters you
I wouldn't exactly call your boyfriend a knob but possibly tell him to educate him self on how the female vagina works during intercourse and not what he's seen in porno's
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 August 2011):
 he sounds like an idiot... he's trying to sound like he knows what he speaks of but he just sounds like a fool
I'm 51. I've had two kids and multiple partners some VERY large.. my BF is on the small side of average and sometimes he complains I'm too tight.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (23 August 2011):
 Your bf is a ignorant jerk. Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes.
Nothing is wrong with you. If you broke your hymen during your first experience with him, yes you would be tighter that time.
Otherwise the only that is loose are the screws in his head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): I had a bf who said this to my once - he was an idiot in hindsight and I think he had watched too much porn and expected to much! I'm not loose and my current bf tells me it feels lovely down there and he is much bigger than the previous loser.Here's a thing - do YOU think you are loose down there? Why dont you check yourself out with your fingers? If you are and he is right then you just need to do some pelvic floor exercises.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 What should you do? Stop sleeping with guys who tell you that you are loose and that they are larger than average??? Wow, what a jerk.
A vagina stretches to accomodate any size of penis, then it shrinks back enough to hold a tampon. Gives birth to a baby and then still shrinks down enough to hold a tampon.
That should explain about how elastic a vagina is; however, there is no explaining why a guy who is supposed to love you would say mean and untrue things about your body to you and obviously upset you. Except perhaps what I said in the first place - he's a jerk.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 August 2011):
he's full of crap!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 How silly is he really? Of course you're wider down there, you were a virgin and you went from tight to having to stretch out to fit his larger than average cock. Did you try to tell him this? It's not rocket science.
He's being quite impolite and immature and a jerk to say something like this to you. How well do you know him? Are you in love? Are you sure he is a keeper? Because this is ridiculous.
Your vagina is doing what's normal and natural, my bet is he was a virgin himself and therefor has no idea what happens during sex.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 August 2011):
 It means the first time you weren't as aroused and are getting more turned on most likely. Until you have children your vagina doesn't stretch out or loosen. You can have sex a million times and your vagina will not be any larger or looser than the first time you had sex. A penis cannot permanently stretch a vagina. The only time it changes in tightness is when you are aroused, it expands an ENORMOUS amount. So my guess is your body is more comfortable and turned on than the first time you had sex.
You can try exercising your PC muscles (look up some exercises online) and that can help you both feel tighter AND give you better orgasms.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (23 August 2011):
 recently lost your virginity and he is larger than average and he says there is a gap?? sorry but i am not convinced by him! obviously you won't be as tight as you were the first time but OMG what exactly does he want?? i think he is having a laugh or he is insecure about you going with someone else behind his back so he wants you to feel ultra-self conscious about this so you will not want to share it with another guy.
learn how to do kegals. not for him - do it for yourself. a way to test if you are tight enough is to insert a finger and see if you can squeeze it with your vagina. so the same to his penis - thats if you ever let him get his penis in there again. i wouldn't if someone said that to me!
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